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Walls

“It’s funny: By putting up walls, you think you’re protecting yourself, but you get to live less.

If you’re hiding behind a wall, then you can’t see over it.

You’re depriving yourself of so much if you’re trying to be too aware of what you’re putting out there.

If you feel someone breaking those walls down, let them.

Those are the people that you need to find in life, rather than people that you’re just comfortable with.”

~ Kristen Stewart (via rkisunbroken)

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The Power of Vulnerability

 How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Can Transform the Way You Live

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~ Brené Brown

What makes you feel vulnerable? What does being vulnerable really mean and why is it that so many people are terrified of sharing their own story with those around them?

Do you feel that being vulnerable is a sign of strength or a weakness?

Watch this beautiful TED Talk (I promise it’s worth the 20 mins) and discover how the courage to be vulnerable can transform the way you live your life in a very positive and meaningful way, helping you to connect with the world around on a deeper level.

Enjoy!

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The Damsel Archetype

Damsel . Princess

Light:

Understanding the nature of healthy romance.

Ability to protect, provide and rely on yourself

Shadow:

Waiting for a Knight to provide for you.

Seduction by romantic illusion.

 The Damsel

The Damsel in Distress may be the oldest female archetype in all of popular literature and the movies.

She is always beautiful, vulnerable, and in need of rescue, specifically by a Knight and, once rescued, she is taken care of in lavish style.

The castles that Damsels are taken to have prisons, cold stone walls, drawbridges, and moats.

When disappointed, a Damsel must go through a process of empowerment and learn to take care of herself in the world.

The Shadow Aspect

The shadow side of this archetype mistakenly teaches old patriarchal views that women are weak and teaches them to be helpless and in need of protection.

It leads a woman to expect to have someone else who will fight her battles for her while she remains devoted and physically attractive and concealed in the castle/ prison.

The Damsel’s fear of going it alone is holds the Damsel/Knight relationship together. It also often shatters the relationship when the Prince or Knight grows older and expects to have a perennially young, attractive Princess at his beck and call.

The Damsel/Princess must ultimately learn to fight her own battles and evolve into a Queen.

The Princess

The Princess is more often associated with romance rather than distress.

She awaits a Knight who is worthy of her beauty and rank and will take her not to his castle but to a palace.

Many women still expect to marry a man who will give them a castle and take of them. And some men are raised to expect to do this (see Prince and Knight).

The Princess inevitably grows older even if she remains helpless. Or she becomes more interested in the outside world, develops skills and competencies and is unable to maintain the same old dynamic of dependency.

Palaces are fantastically beautiful and charmed and are associated with ballrooms and elegance. The common (archetypal) expression, “Daddy’s little Princess” implies an adoring father who brings up his daughter surrounded by beauty and abundance. There is no “Daddy’s little Damsel in Distress.”

The Shadow Aspect

The Princess and the Damsel, however, both are taught to be helpless and do share a yearning for a Knight as a partner in life, the implication being that without a Knight, they are powerless in this world.

Either way, most Damsel/Prince relationships ultimately find that they change or fail.

The challenge inherent in these archetypal patterns, therefore, is to do for yourself what you expect the Knight to do for you–provide and protect yourself

Evaluation

Examine your young-girl fantasies and expectations for a mate. Were you waiting for the arrival of your Knight in Shining “Amour,” hoping to be rescued… and disappointed that your expectations weren’t met?

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Movies with ‘Damsels’

Watching movies related to one of your core archetypes, especially when going through the process of healing your shadow aspect is a powerful tool to help you understand yourself (your motivations, your passions, your fears – why you behave the way you do).

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