Defeat Is Not An Option – Life After Abuse

What would victory look like to you? – Spend a minute to visualise it..

Are you strong?



Are you looking after yourself, eating well, exercising, spotting in advance hurtful people and staying away from them, are you compassionate, understanding and supportive to those in pain, are you having fun and feeling carefree, are you creative, are you surrounded by healthy, loving good people, are you wiser, are you earning money from things you love to do and are good at?

Well, that’s my vision.

“Getting knocked down in life is a given. Getting up and moving forward is a choice”

“Weak people kick you when you are down – because they are intimidated by you when you are standing up”

I have got back up again and again and again..

And today I will do the same. Because I know I am stronger than whatever has been attempting to defeat me.

If you can visualise it, you can create it.

And even though it may not seem like it, everyday you are claiming back a little of your life, a little piece of your soul.

Love and baby steps

SG x

Victory over evil  – life after abuse

Defeat is not an option

Symbolic painting by Isabelle Bryer ~ ‘The Victory of Innocence Over Evil’


POWER & Inspiration

‘You, At Your Most Powerful’

I love this post ..

I’ve added a few photo’s below of people ‘in their power’ from EG facebook page but check out some of the rest, and read their inspiring comments to her.

I love that this woman is all about empowerment.

SilverGirl x

Post by Elizabeth Gilbert – Writer

Dear Ones –

I want you to do me a favor today.

I want you to post a picture of yourself taken at a moment when you felt like you were at your most powerful.

Here is a photo of me, for instance, at my most powerful.

It’s not me at my prettiest, and definitely not me at my most glamorous. I hadn’t washed my hair for a few days, and I was wearing my rattiest old tank top. I wasn’t hanging out anywhere exciting — not meditating in India, not eating my way through Italy, not walking on a beach in Bali, not climbing a mountain, not watching a sunset, not receiving an award, not meeting a famous person.

When this photo was taken, I was at home. I was doing research for my novel THE SIGNATURE OF ALL THINGS. I was reading yet another scholarly treatise on 19th century botany, taking notes on some index cards that I’d purchased at Staples.

That’s what I did pretty much all that year — I just sat there, reading books, and studying 19th century botany, and taking notes, and dreaming of my novel.

When I look at this picture, I see a woman who is doing exactly what she wants to be doing with her life.

That’s what power means to me.

In fact, that’s the ONLY thing power means to me.

Power doesn’t have to be fierce. It doesn’t have to be aggressive or combative or cocky. It doesn’t have to tear anything down. It doesn’t have to be in your face. It doesn’t have to be a moment of fist-pumping victory. It doesn’t have to be expensive or monumental. It doesn’t have to make the world explode.

Generally speaking, the deepest kind of power doesn’t have much to do with anyone else at all. Nothing to do with status, nothing to do with reputation, nothing to do with winning.

Because you can achieve all that stuff (status, reputation, victory) and still feel lost as hell.

No, true power comes from standing in your own truth and walking on your own path.

That’s it.

When you are operating from that place (standing in your truth; walking on your path) you are the mightiest thing that has ever lived. Nothing can harm you.

And it usually doesn’t even feel exciting! In fact, the moments in my life where I have completely inhabited my own power have been incredibly relaxing — because there is nothing to fight, nothing to prove.

You just ARE, and you have no doubts about what you are, or where you are, or who you are.

Show me a moment when you felt that way.

I don’t care how long ago it was — let’s see those pictures!

Sometimes just looking at a picture of your most powerful self will remind you of what you’re supposed to be doing with your life, and how it’s supposed to feel.

Sometimes it will point you back toward your path, back toward your truth.

And if you haven’t felt powerful like this in a long time, maybe it’s time to start thinking about what it’s gonna take to get you back to that place, OK?

Because it’s still there. You can still access it.

Sometimes it’s a whole lot less complicated than you think.


In Their Power

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Victory Over The Past

Releasing The Victim 

The key to finding victory over your past and inner peace after trauma is in choosing ‘who you want to be now’

What is your identity now?

Are you a victim of the past or a victor over it?

Do you feel you need justice for inner peace?

Healing is the greatest revenge over those that attempt to destroy your mind, body or soul. They don’t expect you to heal emotionally, physically and spiritually, or to get back up and look good and live well. The darkness wants to extinguish your inner light. It wants to turn you to hate, revenge, anger, despair and self pity.

Emotional, physical and spiritual wounds can heal, and there scars can and do fade.

Always remember that you were stronger than whatever darkness or weakness that attacked you. You are alive..

You know you have inner strength. And you know that you are stronger than anything that would try to attack you in the future.

So who do you choose to be now?

A victim?

One of the many wounded?

A survivor?

A thriver?

A victor?

A healer?

Choosing ‘who you are now’, realizing your incredible strength and personal power, letting go of the story and trauma of the past and radically accepting that there are weak and damaged people who are not capable of healing brings about your own victory over the darkness and over the past.

And with that comes high self worth, high self respect, a deep inner peace and your own radical healing.

Surprisingly great examples of these lessons are in the movie ‘Kung Fu Panda 2’ as he ‘remembers’ his traumatic past, chooses who he is now, finds inner peace, and has victory over the darkness and over his tragic past.

Here are a few clips..

Childhood trauma – So who are you now?

Finding inner peace – The battle against evil 

Victory over evil and the past

Love and baby steps,

Silver Girl