Find A GOOD Therapist..

Good therapists are out there and what a blessing they are. Just like in any profession, there are the good, the not so good and the ones that will take advantage of you.. My suggestion (from experience) if it doesn’t feel 100% safe and positive WALK AWAY and look again! Keep looking, trust your feelings, your gut, your instincts. By doing this you will save yourself a lot of time, money, and potential heartache!

A good therapist is an amazing blessing!

Do not trust anyone simply because they have a degree. A degree makes you a therapist, it doesn’t make you a GOOD therapist.

A therapist that is not a fit is a waste of your time, energy and money.

Finding a good therapist makes the work so much faster, smoother and less painful..

Find a therapist that you feel a connection with and good vibes.

Don’t be slack simply because it’s easier to see just anybody… just like you can see any doctor rather than finding a doctor who actually gives a shit about your wellbeing.

Trust your INSTINCTS!

Find a therapist that their work is not only their career but their vocation (you’ll feel it)..

Find a therapist who doesn’t let their personal belief system (religion etc..) get in the way.

Find a therapist who is open minded and non-judgemental.

Find a therapist that has strong personal boundaries and work ethics.

A good therapist lets you talk but is also solutions orientated.

A good therapist you feel safe around the minute you meet them.

A good therapist has a big heart but also uses her brain.

A good therapist can play different roles like teacher, mentor or guide.

Make sure your relationship with your therapist is not co-dependent. eg. you are vulnerable and need a friend and she unconsciously holds you from moving faster through therapy because the cash each week is good.

A codependent therapeutic relationship is hard to break… Often it is not conscious., but it is a sign that your therapist has work to do on herself.

Your therapist’s issues shouldn’t come up as you talk. This is about you.

You are paying good money, so don’t waste it on a therapist:

  • Who lets you talk but offers no solutions
  • Who isn’t that good and you know it!
  • Who make you feel anxious around them (there is good anxiety and bad anxiety).
  • Who makes you feel uncomfortable or bad or unsafe

Seeing a same sex therapist is a good idea.

Transference can be a problem with opposite sex therapy relationships (sexual attraction, rescuer/ victim dynamics).

Make sure your therapist is not taking advantage of you ~ financially, sexually ..

Love & baby steps

SG x




The Wounded Healer Archetype

Wounded Healer . Caregiver . Nurse . Therapist


Passion to serve others by repairing the body, mind, and spirit.

Ability to help transform pain into healing


Taking advantage of those who need help.

Failing to care for oneself,

The Wounded Healer is initiated into the art of healing through some form of personal hardship–anything from an actual physical injury or illness to the loss of all one’s earthly possessions.

Regardless of the shape of the wound, the challenge inherent in this initiation process is that one is unable to turn to others for help beyond a certain degree of support. Only the initiate can ultimately heal the wound; if it is an illness or accident, it will frequently be one for which there is no conventional cure.

The Wounded Healer archetype emerges in your psyche with the demand that you push yourself to a level of inner effort that becomes more a process of transformation than an attempt to heal an illness. If you have successfully completed the initiation, you inevitably experience an exceptional healing, and a path of service seems to be divinely provided shortly after the initiation is complete.

Manifests as a passion to serve others by repairing body, mind, and spirit.

Inherent strength and ability to assist people in transforming their pain into a healing process, and to channel to energy needed to generate physical and emotional changes.

The Shadow Aspect

The shadow of both the Healer and Wounded Healer manifests through a desire to take advantage of those who need help, including claims that you can heal any and every illness a person has.


Look beyond the obvious definition of what you do professionally, to a continual pattern of trying to heal others.

Source: myss.com

Movies Portraying ‘Wounded Healers’

Watching movies related to one of your core archetype especially when going through the process of healing is a powerful tool to help you understand yourself (your motivations, your passions, your fears – why you behave the way you do).



Ancestral Healing – Finding a Therapist

Finding a Therapist

Ancestral memories and childhood memories are stored in your cells. These memories can be released and cleared with the help of a therapist who specializes in regression.

Sometimes when people feel stuck or paralyzed in their present life or have mystery illnesses or chronic depression looking backwards can help them clear blocks to move forward. (more info. in ‘Spiritual Healing’ category).

Create your Future

If you do choose to see an ancestral healing or regression therapist, look for one that is professional and preferably qualified. A few psychotherapists may do this work – get online, do some research and make some calls

Alternatively someone with a degree or qualifications from a well known school or a well known mentor. Someone who has written books on the subject or devotes their life to this subject.

Most important is that you get an instant safe vibe from them (energy doesn’t lie), that they have experience and that they understand the concept and importance of ancestral healing.

Bad feeling about things

Pitfalls on the Road

Do not trust just anybody you first come across or that is recommended – trust only yourself and your ability to sense what is safe for you.  Just as you would not trust a substandard or flaky doctor with your physical health, the same principal applies to your spiritual health. Personally I would run a mile if I entered a room filled with weird new agey stuff and an un-grounded spiritual vibe.

A healers job is to make you feel safe. Although well meaning, many healers are unhealed, are spiritually confused or fearful, are not working from the light and should not be attempting to heal or teach others until they fully heal themselves.

Hmm..maybe not!

A healed healer has worked hard on themselves. They have worked through the darkness, through their own shadow sides and fears, have healed their own past, have forgiven others and now know that their spirit and energy is safe in the hands of God. They do not need gimics to protect themselves They are strong and safe already.

This does not mean they are religious fanatics. Their only real religion is love and believing in the power of love and of God.

Look for someone balanced… they look balanced, they feel balanced, their space has good energy and you feel safe. They use their head (they’re intelligent), their heart and their healing instincts in combination.

Additional Emotional Support

As the ancestral issues arise you may require healing your emotions regarding the past as well.

Your spiritual therapist may not be an expert in emotional therapy, so if you feel you require additional emotional support discuss this with your trusted healer (they should sense it anyway). They may be able to recommend someone from their contacts that is an expert and safe, or consider seeking out a friend or counsellor (some sort of talk therapy) and use both in combination.  Again use discernment and seek out safe people. Someone you can discuss anything with (no matter how crazy it sounds  :o) – without judgement.

If you cannot find the right people, pray for guidance and help. Ask that the help you seek comes only from the light and is for your highest good.

And finally…

After you have some answers to the puzzle of your past that make some sense, think about at some stage visiting or exploring what you are drawn to. At first you may be scared and that’s okay – in time you will feel safer and brave enough to go on an adventure, explore, maybe travel around and meet people by following your instincts and internal radar / warning system. If it’s overseas, group tours are an option too.

Before travelling make sure you are in a balanced, healthy, good space and are well grounded. This is important. You will know when the timing feels right and good, because it will feel exciting rather than terrifying :o)

If in doubt – wait…the right time will come.

Journal your dreams or visions. Do research online, read books, slowly put the puzzle pieces together and after your journey has ended come home refreshed and hopefully with a lot less emotional baggage, more clarity and better health :o)

You may just find out a little family history that is both fascinating and healing.

History repeats itself – so be bold – go forth and change it.

Choose to live and create your best life and future – out of love not fear.

Love and baby steps,