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Life-Giving Relationships

Relationships…when they are healthy and balanced, they can be life-giving and energizing. A supportive relationship, founded in love, whether it is romantic or friendship based, can offer an invigorating level of companionship and life-long support. In a balanced relationship, energy and is given back and forth, and grows — uplifting both people into their highest creativity.

However, when relationships lose their balance, the opposite energy flow occurs; each person feels short of energy and thus begins to try and force energy their way with criticism and control dramas. We all have experienced the feeling of weariness that comes when interpersonal hostility develops.

The solution is always the same. Each person must find their own inner source of security and inspiration, and then become fully conscious of when this connection is lost.

Just remember that we all have a spiritual download of Peace, Calm, and Inspiration (to do something with our lives) waiting for us. Once we find our inspired path, we can speak our truths in a loving and helpful way, without the need to dominate. In a relationship, our time should be spent supporting each others’ goals and dreams, and discussing the synchronicities that are guiding the way.

We become wiser together… and that’s what it’s all about

~ James Redfield

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Where To Find Support..

… when you have no money, no family, or no friends

Many of us have been neglected our entire lives and are used to surviving on our own, we are used to having no support and we are used to being neglected. We almost expect it, so we continue alone, hoping we can change things alone. We can be too passive and get over-looked. We all need capable support. People who are healed and that can support us in practical ways. People who believe in us and help us believe in ourselves again. People who can get us back into fighting mode. The key is to actively look.

Below are some ideas for where to find support..

Can't do this alone. by noukka

Women’s Centres/Men’s Centres – Essential!I pay only $15 for a counsellor and she’s wonderful. Great advice and support.

 Domestic Abuse phone lines – they are kind, experienced and will chat through and give advice on any problems (even after you got away from your abuser), give you ideas and put you through to other free support in your area.

Online Websites – Depression/ mental health websites, Abuse & Women’s Shelters, Facebook closed groups (Mental Health, Spiritual Emergencies, Highly Sensitive People, Narcissism) – ask around for advice on forums or chat rooms

Citizen’s Advice Bureau – legal questions, any question, also access to other forms of free support

Faith – Yep God, faith and prayer.. excellent support but remember God helps those that help themselves. So have faith AND take action.

Peer support (qualified) – talk to your doctor

Meetup.com groups in your area – (Anxiety groups cover mental health issues).. meetup is more social groups.

Your doctor can advise you of free talk therapy if you’re depressed etc.. There are agencies (other than Mental Health) that offer Government funded support for serious depression or inability to cope.

Any other ideas welcome…

The key is not to give up! Don’t give up if you have no money because you’re on a benefit – there is always free help. Don’t give up when your doctor isn’t helpful or doesn’t understand the depth of your issues, find another Doctor, don’t give up when the counsellor you go to isn’t a fit, keep looking, keep asking.

The key is to actively keep looking until you find the right people to build you up.

SG x

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Ancestral Healing – Finding a Therapist

Finding a Therapist

Ancestral memories and childhood memories are stored in your cells. These memories can be released and cleared with the help of a therapist who specializes in regression.

Sometimes when people feel stuck or paralyzed in their present life or have mystery illnesses or chronic depression looking backwards can help them clear blocks to move forward. (more info. in ‘Spiritual Healing’ category).

Create your Future

If you do choose to see an ancestral healing or regression therapist, look for one that is professional and preferably qualified. A few psychotherapists may do this work – get online, do some research and make some calls

Alternatively someone with a degree or qualifications from a well known school or a well known mentor. Someone who has written books on the subject or devotes their life to this subject.

Most important is that you get an instant safe vibe from them (energy doesn’t lie), that they have experience and that they understand the concept and importance of ancestral healing.

Bad feeling about things

Pitfalls on the Road

Do not trust just anybody you first come across or that is recommended – trust only yourself and your ability to sense what is safe for you.  Just as you would not trust a substandard or flaky doctor with your physical health, the same principal applies to your spiritual health. Personally I would run a mile if I entered a room filled with weird new agey stuff and an un-grounded spiritual vibe.

A healers job is to make you feel safe. Although well meaning, many healers are unhealed, are spiritually confused or fearful, are not working from the light and should not be attempting to heal or teach others until they fully heal themselves.

Hmm..maybe not!

A healed healer has worked hard on themselves. They have worked through the darkness, through their own shadow sides and fears, have healed their own past, have forgiven others and now know that their spirit and energy is safe in the hands of God. They do not need gimics to protect themselves They are strong and safe already.

This does not mean they are religious fanatics. Their only real religion is love and believing in the power of love and of God.

Look for someone balanced… they look balanced, they feel balanced, their space has good energy and you feel safe. They use their head (they’re intelligent), their heart and their healing instincts in combination.

Additional Emotional Support

As the ancestral issues arise you may require healing your emotions regarding the past as well.

Your spiritual therapist may not be an expert in emotional therapy, so if you feel you require additional emotional support discuss this with your trusted healer (they should sense it anyway). They may be able to recommend someone from their contacts that is an expert and safe, or consider seeking out a friend or counsellor (some sort of talk therapy) and use both in combination.  Again use discernment and seek out safe people. Someone you can discuss anything with (no matter how crazy it sounds  :o) – without judgement.

If you cannot find the right people, pray for guidance and help. Ask that the help you seek comes only from the light and is for your highest good.

And finally…

After you have some answers to the puzzle of your past that make some sense, think about at some stage visiting or exploring what you are drawn to. At first you may be scared and that’s okay – in time you will feel safer and brave enough to go on an adventure, explore, maybe travel around and meet people by following your instincts and internal radar / warning system. If it’s overseas, group tours are an option too.

Before travelling make sure you are in a balanced, healthy, good space and are well grounded. This is important. You will know when the timing feels right and good, because it will feel exciting rather than terrifying :o)

If in doubt – wait…the right time will come.

Journal your dreams or visions. Do research online, read books, slowly put the puzzle pieces together and after your journey has ended come home refreshed and hopefully with a lot less emotional baggage, more clarity and better health :o)

You may just find out a little family history that is both fascinating and healing.

History repeats itself – so be bold – go forth and change it.

Choose to live and create your best life and future – out of love not fear.

Love and baby steps,

SilverGirl