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Comfort Eating

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“When I was a child, I didn’t have power over very many things. I didn’t decide when people would hurt me and I couldn’t make it stop. I couldn’t make my mom pay attention to me. But I did find solace in a few things like food. So escaping the pain through food gave me some sense of comfort and control. Back then, that was my only choice. There was no way to improve my life in any real way so numbing the pain was the only option. My goal in life became to go in the opposite direction of the pain since I couldn’t succeed at anything else.”

~ The Rescued Soul by Christina Enevoldsen

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Looking And Feeling My Best

Healing my body – RAW POWER!

After many years of eating predominantly protein and unprocessed foods, I’ve gone raw vegan (just for around 6 months) to alkalize my body (give it a good clean out!). So far it hasn’t been hard to do as I feel strongly this is the next step in my recovery.

It’s day 17 and I can’t say I’m feeling that great or energized but I already look so much better. I’ve lost some weight and my skin is smoother and I look a little younger. I really love looking better and losing some weight. It makes getting dressed and choosing clothes much more exciting!

 Last time I went raw I felt terrible for the first 6 weeks. I’m really glad I pushed through it because after that I felt amazing, positive, energized, l lost weight and was glowing with good health. I really felt radiant.

My expensive blender has broken down :o( so I’m just eating fruit and salads with lots of avocados. Just grazing all day whenever I feel hungry. It’s pretty boring so far, at least with a blender you can add smoothies, frozen banana ice-cream, dips, nut butters etc.. (I miss my blender! Hard to go raw without it!)

 Last night I added some raw nuts and goji berries and I’ll make some chia pudding for breakfast (need a little more variety!!)

As for exercise I’m just strolling along the beach in the evening (more getting fresh air than exercise). When I feel over this detoxing stage  I’ll add some light weights and some brisker walks or maybe buy a cheap second-hand bike and start cycling.

Going raw helps heal your immune system after years of stress, it alkalizes your body, gets rid of inflammatory issues, like arthritis etc.. It energizes you and makes your skin glow with vitality.

I believe it’s only something you should do when you are ready. I’ve spent years healing emotionally, mentally and spiritually and I feel the time is right. Many people go raw when they are highly stressed or still have emotional work to do. It’s fine but I have noticed many tend to get sick rather than healthy or they can’t maintain this way of eating it for long.

I think eating meat (protein) and reducing all processed foods is essential and the best way to eat when really stressed or for the initial process of healing (especially if you have sugar addictions.. or any addictions).

After 6 months, I’ll go vegan and add cooked food (YUM!!)

I believe in living and loving your food, and I don’t believe in being too extreme. This is more a one off super cleanse. The years of stress have taken a toll on my body and physical health and I want to look and feel my best.

Love and baby steps

SG x

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Go Blue

 

Too many of us, too often, for too many reasons find ourselves in the “Red Zone” of life–that place where the stress hormone cortisol creeps up or crashes in on us, robbing us of vital resources to…

– See the broader picture
– Engage, vulnerably and authentically, with others
– Think of options and solutions
– Be resilient
– Operate in “flow”
– And more

Lean toward the “Blue Zone” today–the state of calm-connect, peace-possibility, flow-flourish, enlightenment-engagement. Start by simply acknowledging what is good in your life–let the gratitude wash over you.

Post by Susan Britton Whitcomb

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Hate The Thought Of Meditating?

If you’re like me the thought of meditating seems repulsive (like a forced torture!). But there are really easy relaxation techniques to stop that daily mind chatter and over thinking. Techniques that give your mind a little holiday and bring a sense of clarity, peace and calmness into your daily life.

Try gazing into a candle flame (even for a few minutes), relaxing and listening to gentle or uplifting instrumental music through earphones, or sitting still and focusing your energy going into your hands (they may start to tingle) and then into your body.

Walking barefoot on the shoreline is another, sitting or lying down at a beautiful nature spot (one you’re drawn to energetically).

Anyone know of any other easy techniques?I am a cat... I WILL TELL YOU HOW TO FIND THE ROCK!!!!:

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When Relationship Abuse Is Hard To Recognize

COERCIVE CONTROL

Signs of coercive control are hard to spot; support and information will help.

Great campaign from @CitizensAdvice

By Lisa Aronson Fontes

Paybacks. Silent Treatment. Isolation. Threats. Humiliation. Sometimes even physical abuse. These are the weapons of coercive control, a strategy used by some people against their intimate partners. A relationship that should involve loving support ends up as a trap designed for domination. Although coercive control can show up in a variety of relationships, the most common is one in which a man uses coercive control against his wife or girlfriend. However, people of any gender and orientation(link is external) can be victims or victimizers.

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors, including physical, sexual, verbal and psychological attacks used to control an intimate partner or family member. Without intervention, violence typically escalates in frequency and severity. safehaventc.org:

People subject to coercive control grow anxious and afraid. Coercive control strips away their independence, sense of self, and basic rights, such as the right to make decisions about their own time, friends, and appearance.

Many men who use coercive control also abuse partners physically or sexually, but some use coercive control without physical violence. Outsiders may not be able to see the signs of coercive control in a couple; those who use it are often quite charming.

 (Do you know someone who is being controlled in this way? Do you wonder if your relationship is too controlling? Here’s a checklist(link is external) from my book, Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship(link is external).)

Victims of coercive control often feel like hostages. Over time, being grilled, criticized, stalked, and monitored may seem routine and inescapable. Victims often blame themselves as they feel despairing and disoriented. It’s easy for a person in this position to lose confidence and accept a partner’s view of reality. They may feel confused as they are told again and again that they themselves have triggered their partner’s behaviors by doing something “wrong.” At the same time, to keep the peace, victims may suppress their own desires, silence their voices, and detach from loved ones. Unfortunately, victims often do not see the connection between their partner’s control and their own isolation until time has passed. Losing self-confidence and close relationships at the same time can be paralyzing.

People who get caught in the web of a controlling person are no different from others. They just have the bad luck to become involved with an abuser at a time when they are especially vulnerable. Typically, an abuser will lavish attention on a woman at the beginning of the relationship. Over time, he becomes jealous, monitors her whereabouts, and restricts her interactions with others. His partner thinks the original “helpful man” is the “real” him, and if she does things right, he’ll go back to being wonderful again. At times he may indeed act loving, if this seems like the best way to maintain his control. Loving acts become another controlling tactic.

Once a controlling man has caught a woman in his web, he will do everything he can to prolong the relationship. Sometimes he will threaten, stalk, assault, or even murder her if she leaves or he suspects she’s trying to leave. For this reason, even if there is no physical violence it is important for a person who is being controlled to contact a domestic violence agency and devise a safety plan.

Only a couple of decades ago, society named and recognized the problems of sexual harassment, dating violence, marital rape, and stalking. Coercive control needs to be similarly named and recognized, so we can begin to address it. We all need to learn more, so we can offer the right kinds of support(link is external) and not allow victims to become isolated.

* If you don’t like the word “victim,” feel free to substitute “survivor” or another term that you prefer. 

Interested in learning more? Check out my book, Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship(link is external).