Are you playing the shame game.. ?
Keeping secrets, hiding a drug problem or disguising alcohol abuse are all warning signs that you could be.
Feeling embarrassed, guilty or remorseful will ensure you keep playing.
The Negativity of Shame
Shame can impact every aspect of your life so it’s important to know how to recognize it. Research professor Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, says, “Women often experience shame when they are entangled in a web of layered, conflicting and competing social-community expectations. Shame creates feelings of fear, blame and disconnection.”
It’s easy then to see why shame is particularly prevalent in psychological disorders or drug and alcohol abuse. The internalized feelings of blame, guilt and fear promote the destructive spiral that takes a regular behavior and transforms it into an addiction. Similarly, shame goes hand in hand with denial, a defense mechanism that enables an individual to avoid the reality of a situation. This in turn prevents them from seeking the help they need.
‘Share with people who have earned the right to hear your story..’
“Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame’s is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.”
~ Brene Brown
When something shameful happens in your life, who do you confide in? With whom do you share your story? Who are the people you feel that have earned the right to hear your shame story?
Watch this beautiful video to discover from shame and vulnerability researcher Dr. Brené Brown why it`s so important to open yourself up only to those people who have earned the right to hear your story and what are the six types of people with whom you should never confide in.
This woman is incredible.
You will love this interview.
Brené Brown on Shame
How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Can Transform the Way You Live
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~ Brené Brown
What makes you feel vulnerable? What does being vulnerable really mean and why is it that so many people are terrified of sharing their own story with those around them?
Do you feel that being vulnerable is a sign of strength or a weakness?
Watch this beautiful TED Talk (I promise it’s worth the 20 mins) and discover how the courage to be vulnerable can transform the way you live your life in a very positive and meaningful way, helping you to connect with the world around on a deeper level.
Source: Luminita Saviuc