Comfort Eating

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“When I was a child, I didn’t have power over very many things. I didn’t decide when people would hurt me and I couldn’t make it stop. I couldn’t make my mom pay attention to me. But I did find solace in a few things like food. So escaping the pain through food gave me some sense of comfort and control. Back then, that was my only choice. There was no way to improve my life in any real way so numbing the pain was the only option. My goal in life became to go in the opposite direction of the pain since I couldn’t succeed at anything else.”

~ The Rescued Soul by Christina Enevoldsen


Crying is Cathartic

Crying cleanses the Soul

Let it out

The average person goes through his day accumulating conflicts and resentments. Sometimes they gather inside the limbic system of the brain and in certain corners of the heart. Crying is cathartic. It lets the devils out, before they wreak all kind of havoc with the nervous and cardiovascular systems.

“All these feelings need to be felt. We need to stomp and storm; to sob and cry; to perspire and tremble.”


What You Imagine, You Create.


This quote resonates strongly in me today. I’ve been through a lot in the last few months –  and I feel I’ve finally come to the end of some hard and painful lessons.

Emotional healing is work and it’s hard work – it takes a toll.

Give yourself the time and no judgement.

Be gentle on yourself. Sleep if you must, cry if you must. Nourish yourself as best as your energy can during the process.

It will all work out. The bills will get paid and the work will get done. But maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow…

Have faith in the healing process because this work is important.

I know I am changing dynamics in myself which will affect my family, my children and my future.

It only takes one person to change and the whole dynamics change.

If you want a better future and if you can imagine a better future, you can create it.

Have the courage, hold the vision and create something amazing.

Love and baby steps,



Are You Under Too Much Stress?

Your dad's been under a lot of pressure lately. Hahahaha.


Everyone experiences stress; it’s almost unavoidable in the modern world. College exams, job interviews, entrance exams for graduate programs, a big deadline at work, and the list is practically endless.

 However, there is a point when stress can start to become truly harmful. If you start experiencing any (or all!) of these signs of stress, it may be time to do something about it.

Fatigue and Problems Sleeping

If you’re having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep (and you can’t blame it on too much caffeine), it’s time to do something about your stress levels.

OMG soooooooo me!!!!!!! my friends get mad at me for sleeping so much i just say well its my hobby get over it.

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Can't sleep... chronic illness #insomnia

Headaches and/or Muscle Pain and Tension

Chances are you know how your body reacts when you’re stressed. Pay attention to what your body is telling you! If you’re uncomfortable, it may be due to the amount of stress you’re under. I carry all my tension in my neck and shoulders, so when that area starts to get uncomfortable, I know I need to take a break.

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Stretches to Relieve Neck and Shoulder Tension--need this! That's exactly where my stress goes.

Changes in Mood

You’re rude to a friend out of the blue, you can’t seem to sit still, or you’ve started crying at random intervals. It may be that stress is affecting your mood, and thus your behavior. That’s not to say that you can blame stress for all of your bad moods, but if you can’t seem to shake it you may want to ask yourself if stress is to blame.

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Lack of Motivation or Focus

When we are stressed out we start feeling overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin. When this happens we have an extremely difficult time getting anything done. For some stress can be a motivating factor, but if you’re losing focus on a project that you know is important or that you were previously excited about, stress may be the root of the problem.

Get up !

Overeating or Under Eating

The food you eat is the fuel for everything you do. Both over and under eating can cause problems (the word hangry was created for a reason). So when you notice you’ve drifted away from your typical eating habits, stress may be an underlying cause.

#Binging, #overeating, and #compulsiveeating are band aids for what's really going on just below the surface.

If you realize that you’re experiencing one or more of these factors, try some physical activity or other stress management technique in the short term. Favorite stress-busters are ‘taking positive action,’ exercise, baths, long walks or yoga.

What is stressing you and what can you do about it?

Hate your job?

Your partner is not a good match?

Financial stress?

Feeling hopeless or trapped?

Start making choices and taking baby steps to get you out of the stress.

Start taking some control of the situation no matter how small. ( a little and a little = a lot)

Positive action will make you feel better.

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Taking control of your stress level may help you not only feel better now, but also improve your long term health.

we all need some control because sometimes we are way over the edge. With PTSD our body feels like things are out of control too since our mind body reactions to our memories become automatic when we are triggered.

Scientists have linked stress to a decrease in memory, a weakened immune system, and even weight gain.

Did you know that eating under stress actually decreases your ability to absorb the nutrients?!

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N Lepore (Mind Body Green)


Wisdom For Those Hurting


My Encounter with a Kind Sage…

"Read or read.  There is no read not."  Yoda is wise.  http://bit.ly/theTraveller   #GetReading #Yoda

I once met a sage…

He had a twinkle in his eye, and his heart was in his smile.

Looking for a rhyme and reason to the many pains, trials, and frights that were entangling me…I asked, “Why is life not easier? Why can’t it be better?”

He could tell I was pained and troubled.

A tear welled up in his eye, yet he smiled in the softest of ways…

“I’m sorry you hurt, I’m sorry you feel pain, but this is a part of existence on this planet.”

I reached out my hand…he reached out his own.

Our palms touched. I began to weep. He began to weep. And then he pulled me into his arms.

“Child, child…you are strong. More so than you know,” he whispered.

“I’m not so sure,” I replied.

He put his hands on my shoulders and pushed me softly an arm-length’s away.

He stared into both of my eyes. “Yes, you are strong. You must believe.”

Sliding his right hand from my shoulder, down my arm, to my wrist, he turned my palm up and directed all of his energies there… right into the palm of my hand.

“The secret of happiness is to use this hand in conjunction with your mind… and to build something that will better the life of your brother and your sister. You know, everyone is your brother and your sister. Don’t forget this. Miseries will come miseries will go… but if you keep steadily working and with this hand creating, loving, it will begin to make sense.”

He turned my palm and placed it on my heart…

“Your most precious gift is your heart pumping in your chest. It continues to give you life, and if you dare to pay attention, dare to let it lead you where you are meant to be, you will find yourself living the most amazing of existences.”

He continued…

“The heart knows what is right, good, and noble. It is those who with ignited heart pour themselves into their work, touch the lives of their neighbors, and understand the power of creation that find true freedom. All too many know what it feels like to miss their calling because of fear. Everyone has the same chance…including you.”

I was so very silent stared at the ground knowing that so many times I have failed.

The sage put his fingers under my chin and he raised my eyes to look into his.

Fire blazed within his soft brown gaze.

“No need to be ashamed. Just go and do what you’re supposed to do. Your dreams were planted for a reason. Your heart beats to serve your purpose. Let your heart guide your hands, let it guide your mind, and then your feet will naturally follow. Don’t be a slave to fear. Open your arms and embrace what is to come, and with kindness and humility do your work.”

He reach down once more, took my hand, gave it a warm squeeze, and went on his way with purpose…

I’ve never seen him again, yet a part of him blazes within me.

I see his eyes, his heart filled smile.

I am now certain beyond belief that sometimes we all need a sage, and sometimes we are the sage.

~ By Jen Engevik ~



“Sadness gives depth. Happiness gives height. Sadness gives roots. Happiness gives branches. Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously. The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots. In fact, it is always in proportion. That’s its balance.”

― Osho


“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.

― José N. Harris


Ester asked why people are sad.

“That’s simple,” says the old man. “They are the prisoners of their personal history. Everyone believes that the main aim in life is to follow a plan. They never ask if that plan is theirs or if it was created by another person. They accumulate experiences, memories, things, other people’s ideas, and it is more than they can possibly cope with. And that is why they forget their dreams.”

― Paulo Coelho