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Silent Rage And What To Do About It

Anger Management


Silent rage is no secret, even though it’s silent. Most communication is nonverbal, and you can rest assured that your eyes, expressions, voice tone and mannerisms are communicating your suppressed rage and anger.

Keeping it inside is certainly better than exploding on someone, it’s just not a long term solution. silent rageIt got this way because you don’t know what to do about your anger, andit just kept building.

It’s time to take care of this, before it gets much worse. There are answers here, and you can take the necessary steps. You’ve got what it takes to get the job done.


 

Where Does Silent Rage Come From?

 

It never “comes out of nowhere” like a lot of people think. There is always a reason for all kinds of anger, including rage.

So, what is rage and how is it different from plain old anger? Good question. Rage is a result of a lot of anger, pain, confusion, feelings of helplessness and a little bit of “I don’t care any more.”That’s why it’s so dangerous. Let’s look at where it comes from:

    • You were hurt somehow, and your wounds never healed.

 

    • You feel like nobody really understands, or cares.

 

    • Your needs have not been met, and you’re very, very frustrated.

 

    • You may feel very justified in your thoughts and feelings at a certain level.

 

  • You give way too much attention to the things that infuriate you, and give you a negative view of the world.

It’s only silent because you’re afraid of what will happen if you let it out. You’re not a bad person, and you really don’t want to harm anyone…but the rage kind of makes you crazy. That’s the way rage works.

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Three Steps To Deal With Silent Rage

 

The only reason you’re still reading this is because you have some hope that things can get better. You are tired of the silent rage, and you don’t want it to explode or turn into an illness.

You’re a good person, and that’s why you don’t like all of the anger inside. So, here are the steps:

    1. First, the wounds have to be healed. Review the ways in which you were hurt, starting in your childhood and leading up to today. Include major losses, and unmet needs. Write it all down. This has been found to be healing, all by itself. If you feel you need more help, search this site, or seek counseling for further support in your healing.

 

    1. The next step is to begin to learn to love yourself. I know, this is a tall order, but you can do it. One of the reasons your rage is silent is that you have a good heart and you don’t want it coming out and hurting those you love.

 

  1. Finally, you need to shift your mental focus to what is good, right and working about you and the world around you. This Goodfinding journaling process will help you with that.

You’ve already taken some important steps to healing silent rage, just by being with me at this point.

You can do this. You have the will and determination and good heart right there inside you.

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Are You Under Too Much Stress?

Your dad's been under a lot of pressure lately. Hahahaha.

Stress

Everyone experiences stress; it’s almost unavoidable in the modern world. College exams, job interviews, entrance exams for graduate programs, a big deadline at work, and the list is practically endless.

 However, there is a point when stress can start to become truly harmful. If you start experiencing any (or all!) of these signs of stress, it may be time to do something about it.

Fatigue and Problems Sleeping

If you’re having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep (and you can’t blame it on too much caffeine), it’s time to do something about your stress levels.

OMG soooooooo me!!!!!!! my friends get mad at me for sleeping so much i just say well its my hobby get over it.

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Can't sleep... chronic illness #insomnia

Headaches and/or Muscle Pain and Tension

Chances are you know how your body reacts when you’re stressed. Pay attention to what your body is telling you! If you’re uncomfortable, it may be due to the amount of stress you’re under. I carry all my tension in my neck and shoulders, so when that area starts to get uncomfortable, I know I need to take a break.

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Stretches to Relieve Neck and Shoulder Tension--need this! That's exactly where my stress goes.

Changes in Mood

You’re rude to a friend out of the blue, you can’t seem to sit still, or you’ve started crying at random intervals. It may be that stress is affecting your mood, and thus your behavior. That’s not to say that you can blame stress for all of your bad moods, but if you can’t seem to shake it you may want to ask yourself if stress is to blame.

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Lack of Motivation or Focus

When we are stressed out we start feeling overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin. When this happens we have an extremely difficult time getting anything done. For some stress can be a motivating factor, but if you’re losing focus on a project that you know is important or that you were previously excited about, stress may be the root of the problem.

Get up !

Overeating or Under Eating

The food you eat is the fuel for everything you do. Both over and under eating can cause problems (the word hangry was created for a reason). So when you notice you’ve drifted away from your typical eating habits, stress may be an underlying cause.

#Binging, #overeating, and #compulsiveeating are band aids for what's really going on just below the surface.

If you realize that you’re experiencing one or more of these factors, try some physical activity or other stress management technique in the short term. Favorite stress-busters are ‘taking positive action,’ exercise, baths, long walks or yoga.

What is stressing you and what can you do about it?

Hate your job?

Your partner is not a good match?

Financial stress?

Feeling hopeless or trapped?

Start making choices and taking baby steps to get you out of the stress.

Start taking some control of the situation no matter how small. ( a little and a little = a lot)

Positive action will make you feel better.

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Taking control of your stress level may help you not only feel better now, but also improve your long term health.

we all need some control because sometimes we are way over the edge. With PTSD our body feels like things are out of control too since our mind body reactions to our memories become automatic when we are triggered.

Scientists have linked stress to a decrease in memory, a weakened immune system, and even weight gain.

Did you know that eating under stress actually decreases your ability to absorb the nutrients?!

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