Why Are You Here?

Because you have a purpose!

Do you ever wonder why you’re here and what your purpose is?

I don’t mean your job, more your vocation.

What are you here for?

My belief is to be a light in the darkness. To make a difference no matter how small. To give hope. To inspire. To touch lives. To be examples of acceptance, love and strength.

There is a destructive force in the world, many of us have experienced it, many of us have been broken by it, and many of us have had the strength to put our broken pieces back together again.

This force is the absence of love and light.

I believe we are here because we are stronger than that darkness. From our personal experiences we are wise, we’re onto them.. we know what to expect.

Our purpose is to restore balance, give hope, educate and bring in more light/ love to this world.

We can all see the greed, wrath, lust and imbalance of power, but there are many more of us getting stronger, that believe in love, charity, patience, and kindness.

Don’t despair if you have times where you feel your life has no real meaning or purpose, you cannot see the bigger picture of all the small interactions throughout your life, or how you are an example of strength to others.

People may even feel threatened by you… they know you’re strong.

Stay loving, stay light. Don’t be robbed of your ability to naturally love and care.

Everyday there are people that need a little light, a little love, a little wisdom, kindness, strength, inspiration, or just a simple smile.

Your small actions already may have changed the lives of hundreds of people, just by exchanging a few kind words and a smile. And maybe those 100 people changed the lives of many more and so on..

When you feel safe enough and strong enough to heal and stop hiding your light, you’ll touch even more people. You have more power than you think.

You have a purpose.

SG x

Be a light in a dark world. ~Ephesians 5:8 || I used to be afraid of the dark, until I learned that I AM A LIGHT and the dark is afraid of me.:


You Don’t Need To Find Your Purpose

You’ve always had it

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Those of us that have been through many betrayals and heartbreaks, overcome addictions, abuse and depression (covert and overt) etc..  have a huge capability to love and serve humanity.

If you have been broken but still remember who you truly are, if humanity has nearly destroyed you but you can still love humanity and if you are able to reconnect with God and love after losing all hope there is a God or love on this planet..

… then you are pure inspiration.

Your purpose is to love and serve .. whether you do it through music, kind words, poetry, writing, dance, science, a smile.

You’ve probably been doing that your entire life without even realizing it , and you may have tragically found not everyone has your courage or capacity to love.

Maybe you’ve experienced great pain and betrayal

 loneliness and heartbreak

 suffering and confusion

But you know what love is and what love isn’t

And you know love heals.

Love heals the pain and betrayal, loneliness , heartbreak, suffering and confusion.

‘Love heals scars love left’

There is not enough love in this world, so ‘if you can’t find the light, be the light’

If you’ve got a big heart, letting God/Love work through you is your purpose, to be inspiration to others is your purpose.

You don’t have to find your purpose because you always had it.



Bring Forth Your Treasures!

Tom Gauld, this makes me happy. I'm not entirely sure why, but I'm gently satisfied that it does.

I’ve had enough of wasting my life in fear!

Here’s a message from Elizabeth Gilbert and below a quote from her new book ‘Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear’.

“My hope for today (and all days) is that you all find the courage to search for the creative treasures that are hidden within you, and to release them into the world! Because whenever you can do that … that’s the #BigMagic, right there”

Love it, love her!

It is in healing that you find your ‘creative treasures’..  so let’s be courageous!

Love and baby steps,

SilverGirl x


Find Your Passion, Hold On To It And Never Let It Go

“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds: Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world.

Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.”

~ Patanjali

I can go on and on about why passion is so awesome and important. But essentially, passion is what identifies you and creates happiness for you, regardless of whatever is going on in your life.

So hold on to it. Many people would be all too ready to tell you what truly creates a happy life, like chasing money. But all of them depends on too many unstable factors.

Find passion instead, and be good at it. Stop caring about what others think and let that inner fire drive your life.

Alden Tan


Legacy & Cleaning Up The Past

Source: The Better Man Project

What legacy are you going to leave?

Legacy defined: “Something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or from the past.” Something I think about often. What do I want to leave behind? I’m not just talking about my children, or my childrens children. I’m thinking in terms of the world. Im thinking bigger than the bigger picture.

What can I leave behind?

What can just one person do? I think we’ve been given examples of that throughout history. Men and women who have changed the world. Men and women who acted alone at first and then united people around them for a cause…one that grew far bigger than anyone could have ever imagined. We have seen that with religion, we have seen that with movements, we have seen that with rights and peace. We have seen these things. I have seen these things. And here I am now, 25, thinking of what I can leave behind…so when I begin, I have the end in mind.

There’s an interesting feeling that comes up inside of me when I start thinking about this topic. But this morning, at 4:45am when thinking about it, I had very vivid and specific thoughts about my past…and it brought me back to a time where I sought out the help from a teacher/mentor who took me through a week long retreat and helped me clean up my past, see the world with new glasses, and bring fresh perspective into my life.

Without cleaning up our past, we cannot…even remotely, live in the present. It doesn’t matter whether the events that happened are in the forefront of your mind, they are still boiling there in your subconscious. I know personally that when I start feeling anxious about things in the present I have things that I need to take care of in my past. Things to say to people, things to let go…and mostly, forgiveness to be given. Our past can completely hinder us from living in the present. It can weaken our resolve and destroy our appreciation of things in the present. In fact, it can even make us completely miss what is happening in the present.

I cannot build a legacy on a murky past.

Now, that doesn’t mean what has happened wasn’t significant or that there weren’t good and bad things that went down. I say murky in terms of looking back and still seeing it missing my attention. It’s easier to move on and try to forget than deal with it. Trying to forget never really works. You never forget. There are always going to be situations, smells, events, songs, foods, and everything else in between that are going to trigger something deep inside of you…that place where you store “trying to forget” and it will make it real again. It will make it real as day.

Because I have such a vivid imagination…when this happens…the past plays in real time and 5k resolution. I am taken straight back there and things change with me in the present. It’s like having the ability to transport yourself back in time and see things for what they truly were and how they happened. I use to think this was a curse because I never took care of what I should have, but now, with a different way of looking at things…I see it as a blessing.


I handle what I need to. I take care of it. I give it the time it deserves. I nurture wounds.

So when I have something trigger it in the present, I am okay with looking back because I know I have hugged my past rather than locked it away in a box…one that you always know is buried in a specific spot and has memories and thoughts banging against the metal walls trying to get out and get your attention.

The past can eat your present and future.

It’s taken big bites out of mine. I fought it for such a long time but there I was again, not dealing with it…and instead battling it. In fact, it took such big bites out of it that it sent be 10-20 steps backwards…something that I had to work very hard to get back to “present day” with. And through that entire 14 week period I learned what it was like to truly invest myself fully into something and to take it 1 day at a time. I built a foundation that I could be proud of and that could take me into the future. But as that challenge ended and I took 5 weeks off, I was back into limbo. I felt like I had more in the tank. I felt like I could accomplish more and that I could step it up a notch. And…where was that anxious feeling coming from again? Why was I freaking out about things I had no business freaking out about? What the hell was going on?

The past snuck back in.

It snuck in and created procrastination, laziness, doubt, anxiousness, fear. T.D. Jakes says that the enemy doesn’t need to fight you anywhere else but right in your mind. Because if it can take out your mind, it can tear down everything else. It didn’t tear me down, but it prevented me from taking steps forward with that same tenacious attitude I had when I just started the 14 week journey.

After this weekend, I had a change of heart and really decided to go back at it again. I recommitted to the things I knew I needed to make happen…I promised myself nothing short of my finest work product and effort…and I committed to writing and walking hand in hand again with some things that were coming up from my past that needed my attention.

See some people will tell you that life is a series of two steps forward and one step back. I don’t necessarily agree with that. It’s not the statement about one step back that I’m bothered with, its just the ratio of the steps. I think life does send you back…but you’re never going to really know how many steps forwards vs backwards its going to be. What I do know however, is that the steps forwards in the long run, if you live with a full heart and use the gifts you were given, are far greater than the steps backwards.

This is just what I know to be true, sitting here at 25 years old, looking at the end and working my way to the beginning. That beginning is today…11/17. It’s another start to something I am going after. But there’s something different about this start. What’s different is my knowledge of what I actually want for myself. It took me a few years to find it, then another to see it…then some time to believe it…but for the first time in my life I really have gone through all of the steps to figuring out what I would love to do.

Now…I just have to grind for it.

– Evan Sanders – The Better Man Project


Are You Hiding?

Wake up..

Do not let fear consume you.

You are stronger than that.

What you fear is the past not your future.

It’s not relevant today.

It will be different, it will be amazing, it will be all your dreams

Throw off the blanket that hides your light

For you are safe

You are protected from attack

For you are a child of God


Be who you are

Who you are meant to be




Heeding The Call

I’m feeling a pull today.

The pull is demanding action from me.

I can’t hear anything – it’s just a knowing.

It’s strong.

Damn – it’s time isn’t it.

I had hoped it was all a dream.

I want to sleep, hide, run, keep warm, avoid.

For ten years I have done just that.

Trying to hold onto my life, my family, my reality.

Was what I saw real?

I remember now, I accepted something..

Damn – what a fool!

I don’t want this..  not little old me.

Damn soul.

 I have lost everything I love trying to hold on, keep safe, control my life.

I have lost people’s respect trying to play small.

I tried hard to make my life ‘normal’.

I wanted normal.

Damn again.

I am reluctant.

I am scared.

But I’ve run out of choices.

It must be big to have paralyzed me for ten years.

It’s all my dreams and fears combined.

I know I can do some good

I guess it’s time

I guess I’m ready

I guess I’m brave

I guess I’m strong

I know I’m not alone.

There are others feeling the same way.

I hope I find them soon

My kin

My family

Because I need you,

I think we need each other.