Feeding My Heart

stop stress eatingI’ve been overeating for about a month now. Feeding my heart, not my stomach.. I just allowed it, I was so bloody heartbroken. I haven’t behaved like this for years so I was surprised when my binge eating suddenly came back.

I don’t control my binges because I know something very emotional for me is going on..  I try to be gentle and kind to myself. I only control what food I choose to eat, but never how much . I don’t eat sugar, gluten or processed foods ever.. and bingeing on those make me really sick..

I barely cooked the last month. I’ve been watching movies and resting to tired to function, waking up each morning rolling over and thinking .. ugh.. another f*cking sunrise to wake up to bleary eyed and exhausted.

I’ve been holed up inside, haven’t seen much light, I’ve eaten potato chips by the bagful, rice pudding with honey, rice crackers and dip .. yum..

I ate and ate and enjoyed every minute of it, it soothed me. Sure I’ve gained some weight especially on my stomach and my jeans are now skin tight.. hey a bonus it saves a belt :o)

Anyway today I don’t feel the need to binge on carbs. Last night I made the decision to stop dwelling and take action, my family don’t deserve my tears or to rob me another day of my life.

So today I’m taking action and taking my life back. I’m going to sell my Grandmother’s handmade rug my mother told me I had to keep because it’s special to her, and my party business that my father begrudgingly made the furniture for. In fact I’m going to sell all the things that hold me to my past..

I felt very guilty at first but I know it’s something I have to do, an act of rebellion or defiance, an act to cut the bonds to my past once and forall. I have permission to cut the ties to my past..  my permission.

I know I deserve better, and I’m really looking forward to better :o)

Makes me feel sad but really powerful at the same time. Makes me feel in control of my life and my future. Makes me know the direction I want to head .. forwards ..  and not backwards ever again.

Love & baby steps,

SG x




Are You Under Too Much Stress?

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Everyone experiences stress; it’s almost unavoidable in the modern world. College exams, job interviews, entrance exams for graduate programs, a big deadline at work, and the list is practically endless.

 However, there is a point when stress can start to become truly harmful. If you start experiencing any (or all!) of these signs of stress, it may be time to do something about it.

Fatigue and Problems Sleeping

If you’re having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep (and you can’t blame it on too much caffeine), it’s time to do something about your stress levels.

OMG soooooooo me!!!!!!! my friends get mad at me for sleeping so much i just say well its my hobby get over it.

3 am

Can't sleep... chronic illness #insomnia

Headaches and/or Muscle Pain and Tension

Chances are you know how your body reacts when you’re stressed. Pay attention to what your body is telling you! If you’re uncomfortable, it may be due to the amount of stress you’re under. I carry all my tension in my neck and shoulders, so when that area starts to get uncomfortable, I know I need to take a break.

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Stretches to Relieve Neck and Shoulder Tension--need this! That's exactly where my stress goes.

Changes in Mood

You’re rude to a friend out of the blue, you can’t seem to sit still, or you’ve started crying at random intervals. It may be that stress is affecting your mood, and thus your behavior. That’s not to say that you can blame stress for all of your bad moods, but if you can’t seem to shake it you may want to ask yourself if stress is to blame.

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Lack of Motivation or Focus

When we are stressed out we start feeling overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin. When this happens we have an extremely difficult time getting anything done. For some stress can be a motivating factor, but if you’re losing focus on a project that you know is important or that you were previously excited about, stress may be the root of the problem.

Get up !

Overeating or Under Eating

The food you eat is the fuel for everything you do. Both over and under eating can cause problems (the word hangry was created for a reason). So when you notice you’ve drifted away from your typical eating habits, stress may be an underlying cause.

#Binging, #overeating, and #compulsiveeating are band aids for what's really going on just below the surface.

If you realize that you’re experiencing one or more of these factors, try some physical activity or other stress management technique in the short term. Favorite stress-busters are ‘taking positive action,’ exercise, baths, long walks or yoga.

What is stressing you and what can you do about it?

Hate your job?

Your partner is not a good match?

Financial stress?

Feeling hopeless or trapped?

Start making choices and taking baby steps to get you out of the stress.

Start taking some control of the situation no matter how small. ( a little and a little = a lot)

Positive action will make you feel better.

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Taking control of your stress level may help you not only feel better now, but also improve your long term health.

we all need some control because sometimes we are way over the edge. With PTSD our body feels like things are out of control too since our mind body reactions to our memories become automatic when we are triggered.

Scientists have linked stress to a decrease in memory, a weakened immune system, and even weight gain.

Did you know that eating under stress actually decreases your ability to absorb the nutrients?!

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Big Choices = Big Confusion?

Conflicting Emotions

Have You Ever Felt Full of Conflicting Emotions or Impulses?

Ever heard the saying, ‘we choose to live or we choose to die or.. get busy living or get busy dying.

Living your life or being the ‘living dead’ really is a choice..

Everyday each choice we make we are choosing to live or to die. Think about it..

McDonalds for breakfast or a fruit smoothie at home, walk to the shops or take the car, go to bed at 10.30pm or stay on the net until 1.30am, seek help or drown sorrows in alcohol and drugs every weekend.

In Psychology, the state of being conflicted between two opposing choices is called ‘Cognitive Dissonance’.

Cognitive Dissonance can put you in a complete state of stress and inner conflict.

It happens when you have a very big decision to make and two opposing choices. (For example deciding whether to stay in an unsatisfying relationship).

On one hand you dearly love your partner, so your heart will be saying stay, and on the other hand, you are deeply dissatisfied and not a good match for each other, so your head is saying leave.

Generally very big personal fears come into play in making these life decisions, so be gentle on yourself – this is not a small thing.

Sometimes neither choice feels good but you still have to make a decision and it may seem easier to avoid them both and just go to bed, bury your head under the covers and take no action or keep yourself really busy, working, drinking & socializing (again, burying your head in the sand). People suffer from chronic depression because they avoid painful decisions.

This is not the answer and will only prolong your pain. Even if you can’t make the decision yet, be kind to yourself, be gentle on yourself, accept that this is hard or heartbreaking for you, it’s big, it’s life changing.

If necessary try relaxation techniques. 

Healthy ways to deal with the stress and to self soothe your inner conflict:

Warm comforting baths

Rest and keep warm

Watch inspiring movies

If you are over eating… go with the flow, accept you are going through an emotional upheaval that will be short lived – choose what you eat wisely though – healthy food over unhealthy if you cannot control your emotional stress and hunger.

Fruit smoothies with added raw cashews and fresh dates if you crave sweet & creamy

Comforting meals that you love and that are healthy. Fresh fish, mash and vegies, warming soups etc..

Remember to go with the flow, be easy on yourself, you’ll get there – even if you’re changing your mind like you change your underpants! – it’s ok.

You are going through a deep process, and your head, heart and conscience are all involved and all putting in their piece ..

You will it figure it out. You will get there and you will feel strong & confident again.

Ask yourself these important questions:

 What does my heart want? What does my head want? What do I need? What are my fears? Am I ready for this? Is this the right time? What do I need to do right now? What are my priorities – (what do I need to do first?) Can I do this in baby steps?What ‘feels good’, What feels ‘right?’ What is best for me? Do I need emotional support, money, support, guidance? Where can I get this? Do I need a plan, a goal or a strategy to succeed? Do I need time to gain my strength?

Which decision feels like I’m taking the easy path…and which feels the harder thing to do..?

Does this feel like a life or death decision?

Do you feel like the living dead…?

You may be scared… you may be confused….you may be judged for your choice …or worse be ostracized by loved ones …you may be terrified…you may feel you aren’t strong enough.

Finding the Right Help 

 If you find you’re paralysed and feeling depressed, or your conscience is keeping you up at night, you’re not sleeping well and you’re swapping back and forth with choices , you’ve been stuck for too long, you’re over indulging in alcohol, food, drugs etc..consider seeking professional help, a guide, a role model or someone who can boost your self esteem and help you find the inner strength, confidence and support you need.

You need to find someone who’ll listen & care but will not in any way judge your actions or influence your decision because of their own fears or belief system. Someone who has experience and has changed their own life for the better, someone you trust and someone who believes in you and you ability to find your own answers.

If you can’t find the right person for this, pray for the perfect person to help you to enter your life.

‘Letting it Go’

Another suggestion is that after you’ve processed everything is just to ‘let it go’..

Have faith that when you give your head a much needed rest and ‘let go’ of your logical mind trying to control your intuition that the answer you need will indeed surface and you will just ‘know’ it is the right one for you.

Radical Acceptance

This whole process is part of you radically accepting and coming to terms with what you need to, not necessarily what you want to do. 

The decision you make may not be what you want, but it may just be what you need to become healthy, strong and happy.

There are times when we all have to make heartbreaking decisions for our own health, sanity and happiness.

We have to love ourselves first, because we can not continue living if we are suffering and don’t be afraid to disappoint others especially those who are not living their own lives happily due to their own fears and insecurities.

Have faith that in time the pieces will come together.

It’s Time For You to Live and to Live Well

We all deserve a fantastic life – you deserve amazing love, happiness and peace, a career that is your passion that you can’t wait to wake up and start everyday. A career that gives your life purpose and meaning and that is unique to you.

During this process, stay in the now – don’t look too far ahead,

and remember baby steps, change takes time, it’s a process, be patient, be courageous, believe in yourself, have faith… you’ll get there in the end, and when you do, it will have been worth all the struggle..

You will be proud of yourself that you made the best decision.

Silver Girl

Cognitive dissonance is the excessive mental stress and discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same time. This stress and discomfort may also arise within an individual who holds a belief and performs a contradictory action or reaction. For example, an individual is likely to experience dissonance if he or she is addicted to smoking cigarettes and continues to smoke despite believing it is unhealthy.

Leon Festinger’s theory of cognitive dissonance focuses on how humans strive for internal consistency. When inconsistency (dissonance) is experienced, individuals largely become psychologically distressed. His basic hypotheses are listed below:

  1. “The existence of dissonance, being psychologically uncomfortable, will motivate the person to try to reduce the dissonance and achieve consonance”
  2. “When dissonance is present, in addition to trying to reduce it, the person will actively avoid situations and information which would likely increase the dissonance”

Extract from Wikipedia