Finding A Trusted Advisor
If is often best to find someone preferably of the same sex if you need support. A therapist/ mentor/ advisor who has been in a similar situation to you.. someone who understands narcissism, abuse and trauma and can support you with talk therapy. Someone experienced, non judgemental and healthy who can help you unscramble your mind. Someone safe that you grow to trust. They can help you make plans and take baby steps to create health, peace and freedom in your life. It’s hard to make decisions when your head feels like scrambled eggs from subtle psychological abuse (covert narcissism) or when you’re exhausted from the chronic stress of dealing with the unreasonable.
Do you homework to find the right person.
By the time I knew I had to leave my unhealthy marriage .. I was in a desperate situation. I hadn’t been big on prayer ..but I prayed out of sheer desperation for the right person to come into my life. I had no idea how I was going to continue without any healthy support.
I prayed for someone who would understand me and my situation and who would be good for me and then I took action when I was referred to counsellors.