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What Am I Here For?

Feeling the fear … and doing it anyway

I came across this quote today, which perfectly sums up the situation I’ve been in recently. I have loads of tenacity but I’ve been taking very little action.

So after months of fatigue, self sabotage, procrastination, mental conflict and battling my gripping fears I have finally begun.

Over the weekend I started making some of the changes I need to make, it’s all baby steps right now as I tread somewhat timidly towards my new life.

Now that my fears have somewhat subsided, I realize this is going to be good. Good for me and good for my children.

Today I even feel a little excited.

Ever heard of ‘The Hero’s Journey’, well I’ve finally accepted the call.

I found this short video regarding ‘The Hero’s Journey’. The woman in it Elizabeth Gilbert is my hero and mentor right now..

She calls it ‘the Quest’ and that your quest starts off with the question – ‘what am I here for?’

So what are you here for?

Check it out

Love and baby steps,

SG

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Why Motivation Doesn’t Really Matter

Have you ever really wanted to do something, but you just weren’t motivated enough to do it?

Unmotivated

This is always my number one reason for not taking action, as I’m sure it’s probably yours too. If you’re not motivated, you just don’t have the energy or the drive to do what you need to do, right? Simple enough.

But here’s three of the biggest problems with relying on being highly motivated all the time:

  1. Maybe you don’t really care about what you’re doing. Maybe it doesn’t really matter and you’re trying to force yourself to do something you don’t want to do. In this case, your lack of motivation is your subconscious telling you “this is not important” or “this does not align with my values.”
  2. Energy comes in waves. And just as each wave has a crest, it also has a trough. Sometimes your level of motivation will be like a rushing tsunami. At other times, it will be a steady flow. These are natural rhythms and following these rhythms are important, because if you don’t, you will burn out.
  3. Sometimes you won’t be excited before you take action, but you will feed good after you’re done. Take exercise for example. A lot of people dread or loathe working up a sweat. They are not motivated beforehand, at least not enough for them to break through the mental resistance to the work that will be done. But, they feel awesome when they’ve finished exercising. Therefore, sometimes you can’t rely on being highly motivated before, sometimes you have to rely on being motivated after.

Does that mean that motivation is unimportant? No, it’s still important and it does play a role. But too often, it’s easy to get caught up in relying on being totally psyched about something before you do it.

You will not always be totally psyched.

And that’s okay. Does water get anxious when it reaches a depression in the earth? No, it is completely content in its state of acquiescence. When it reaches a hill it does not worry that it now has to travel faster and pick up its pace. It simply flows down the hill.

The way water flows is called following your natural rhythms.

The reason I first started looking at this different way of approaching my goals was because typical motivation hacks didn’t work for me. Sometimes they would work, and sometimes they wouldn’t. Sometimes visualizing success would be highly motivating and sometimes it would simply flunk with a dull thud. It was only when I allowed myself to let go, that I success started to come more easily for me.

I admit, this may seem hard to at first, but it’s a matter of trust. You have to trust your authentic self to guide you in when it’s time to take action and when it is time to just be.

Here are a few ways to practice this non-striving way of manifesting your desires:

  1. Practice listening to your intuition. A lot of us have a tendency to question the validity of our intuition. We favor our rational mind and its sure, logical method of explanation. Our intuitive mind, however, is just as valid. As Einstein once said “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” Learn to honor your intuitive gift by practicing asking yourself questions and listening to the response you give yourself without trying to logically deduce the answer.
  2. Take time to ask yourself what you really want. We often get so caught up in the attachment to achieving our goals that we forget to listen to what we actually want. Instead of us creating goals as a means to fulfill our desires, we become enslaved by them. Whenever you feel that your goal is weighing you down, ask yourself “What do I really want?” and listen silently to the answer you receive.
  3. Accept that you won’t always be insanely motivated. If you’re waiting to take action until you’re incredibly motivated, you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself. It’s better to ease the strain by allowing yourself to be mildly interested or even in a state of dread. Allowing yourself to be in this state makes it easier to move past it because you’re no longer resisting it. When you resist the state you’re in, you perpetuate it.
  4. Tap into your flow. We all have times when we’re more creative or more energized, and we all have times where we feel like resting and recharging. For some of us, these ebbs and flows may happen at certain times of the day, for others it may be completely random. The point is to pay attention and exploit these fluxes of energy. By taking massive action when you are full of energy and by allowing yourself to relax when you are in a state of calm, you respect and honor yourself. You will accomplish more by following your natural rhythms than you would trying to force yourself.

There is a time for being productive and there is a time for resting. Just as in nature there is a time for activity and new life in the spring, and there is a time for rest and turning inward in the winter.

Just as nature knows that its perpetual growth is unsustainable, we must realize that expecting to be productive all the time, leads to burn out and being less productive.

Maybe it’s time we start listening to our bodies. I think the more we follow the way of nature, the more intelligently we live.

 Source: Zen Habits contributor Jonathan Mead.

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Are You Under Too Much Stress?

Your dad's been under a lot of pressure lately. Hahahaha.

Stress

Everyone experiences stress; it’s almost unavoidable in the modern world. College exams, job interviews, entrance exams for graduate programs, a big deadline at work, and the list is practically endless.

 However, there is a point when stress can start to become truly harmful. If you start experiencing any (or all!) of these signs of stress, it may be time to do something about it.

Fatigue and Problems Sleeping

If you’re having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep (and you can’t blame it on too much caffeine), it’s time to do something about your stress levels.

OMG soooooooo me!!!!!!! my friends get mad at me for sleeping so much i just say well its my hobby get over it.

3 am

Can't sleep... chronic illness #insomnia

Headaches and/or Muscle Pain and Tension

Chances are you know how your body reacts when you’re stressed. Pay attention to what your body is telling you! If you’re uncomfortable, it may be due to the amount of stress you’re under. I carry all my tension in my neck and shoulders, so when that area starts to get uncomfortable, I know I need to take a break.

Dr Oz Headache Relief: Cluster Headache Symptoms & Migraine Remedies    #DrOz #migraine

Stretches to Relieve Neck and Shoulder Tension--need this! That's exactly where my stress goes.

Changes in Mood

You’re rude to a friend out of the blue, you can’t seem to sit still, or you’ve started crying at random intervals. It may be that stress is affecting your mood, and thus your behavior. That’s not to say that you can blame stress for all of your bad moods, but if you can’t seem to shake it you may want to ask yourself if stress is to blame.

Frustrate your characters to keep readers turning pages by One Wild Word

Lack of Motivation or Focus

When we are stressed out we start feeling overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin. When this happens we have an extremely difficult time getting anything done. For some stress can be a motivating factor, but if you’re losing focus on a project that you know is important or that you were previously excited about, stress may be the root of the problem.

Get up !

Overeating or Under Eating

The food you eat is the fuel for everything you do. Both over and under eating can cause problems (the word hangry was created for a reason). So when you notice you’ve drifted away from your typical eating habits, stress may be an underlying cause.

#Binging, #overeating, and #compulsiveeating are band aids for what's really going on just below the surface.

If you realize that you’re experiencing one or more of these factors, try some physical activity or other stress management technique in the short term. Favorite stress-busters are ‘taking positive action,’ exercise, baths, long walks or yoga.

What is stressing you and what can you do about it?

Hate your job?

Your partner is not a good match?

Financial stress?

Feeling hopeless or trapped?

Start making choices and taking baby steps to get you out of the stress.

Start taking some control of the situation no matter how small. ( a little and a little = a lot)

Positive action will make you feel better.

31 Days of Less & More--Day 7:  Less Anxiety.  Join this month long, life-changing challenge to fill your life with less heartache but more joy, less stress but more peace, and less stuff but more contentment.

Taking control of your stress level may help you not only feel better now, but also improve your long term health.

we all need some control because sometimes we are way over the edge. With PTSD our body feels like things are out of control too since our mind body reactions to our memories become automatic when we are triggered.

Scientists have linked stress to a decrease in memory, a weakened immune system, and even weight gain.

Did you know that eating under stress actually decreases your ability to absorb the nutrients?!

Wood Wall Art, Sign, Vintage Style, Hand Painted, Dear Stress Letter. $24.00, via Etsy.

N Lepore (Mind Body Green)