Getting Into Survival Mode

Time To Stop Being Passive

Get your life back!

We all reach a point in our life when we need to make the choice to live. To really live.

We may have been through hell but it takes choices and action to get out of hell.

To get up and fight for your life, fight for your future.. to survive.

This is hard when you’re been in a long term abusive relationship or a dysfunctional family – because It’s hard to get up when all you want to do is lie down and you may not know how to survive on your own because you’ve always been controlled. You’re not a strategist and you don’t have the skills of focus, discipline, determination and commitment.

Survival may be something you have never had to do before – to protect and provide for yourself without support.

You may feel terrified. You may procrastinate knowing you have to take some action, but feel overwhelmed where to begin..

Due to the abuse or trauma, you may have PTSD, not be able to focus clearly and be suffering from dissociation, you may find it difficult to take action.

I’m going to suggest one task for you to start. One thing for you to do everyday consistently. At this stage you don’t have to do anything else – except maybe look for some healthy support or talk therapy.

The thing to do is to get back ‘into your body’and re-train your brain  – this is very important especially if you have PTSD and feel somewhat ‘out of body’ and drifting through life. Time is ticking by and you’re not achieving much..

People who have been subject to abusive or controlling behavior are emotionally very strong, they have strong and big hearts, but they need to develop a strong mind to go with their big hearts. From being controlled their mental strength has atrophied – literally. Brain scans prove this.. abuse and neglect damage the brain.

Time to heal and balance that…

This is a very simple plan and it’s starting point to help get back into your body.. and re-train your brain..

You have to be consistent…

Monday – Go for a walk (DO NOT exceed 20 mins). Walk briskly or to the very best of your ability  .. for no more than 20 mins – this is important! If you’re sick or very unfit – go slow and start with 5 mins – the important thing is to start and be consistent. If there is nothing else you can achieve all day – achieve this. This is it, the one thing – forget the dishes, the housework – you only have to eat, sleep, do some washing and do this. Organize what you need the night before – find your old walking shoes, old track pants and a t-shirt, forget about your looks and think about your survival. Don’t make it difficult, keep it simple – throw on your gear and walk out the front door. Get home and rest for the rest of the day if need be.

Tuesday – Do crunches (5 sets of 12) – DO NOT do more than that.. but do them to the best of your ability and do them correctly. Have a break between each set if need be and remember to protect your back as you do them.. Watch the video for a demo.

Get a piece of cardboard and write on it ‘ I am Strong’ in large letters – make a sign.. Place it in the room you do the crunches in. Each time you feel too weak remind yourself that you are strong – do 12, have a break, tell yourself that you are strong and that you can do this.. do 12 more… repeat.

 Wednesday – Repeat walk

Thursday – Repeat crunches

Friday –  Walk

Saturday – Crunches

Sunday – Rest Day

There is a very good reason to start this very simple routine which may not be understandable to you ..

1. People with PTSD or C-PTSD need to get into their body and slowly and gently re- wire their brain – pushing yourself for a hour at the gym daily will never work for people with PTSD – you’ll give up, not because you’re lazy or weak, just that it’s simply too hard and we will be setting ourselves up to feel like failures. Which we are not! This system is manageable.

No fancy gear required.

2. We need to activate our ‘core’ muscles – we can do this by doing the crunches. This is the key starting point to external strength. This relates to our ‘solar plexus’ chakra and issues regarding procrastination. Crunches activate your core and balance your solar plexus..

3. These small and easily achieved acts of discipline a day help you develop mental strength and focus. Remember baby steps.

4. Slowly you will achieve results and it will not be at all difficult, it will take time but it is easy!

5. You will begin to focus better.

6. You must be consistent, think of it as something you do daily like cleaning your teeth.

7. You are incorporating discipline, commitment and focus into your life – you need these attributes in order to survive and heal. You are working new muscles do to speak – mentally and physically.. and they will get stronger.

8. Only you live in your mind, you are in control of it. Tell the little voice inside your head that says ‘I’m too tired, it’s too hard’, I want to sleep’, there’s no point’, it’ll take forever’…. where to go and choose life, choose health, choose to survive.

This may seem small but it is a big starting point.

Next up – Diet for Healing..

Love and baby steps,



Procrastination = Solar Plexus Deficiency

Signs of Solar Plexus Deficiency:
Weak Will
Low Motivation
Low Energy
Poor Self Discipline
Victim Mentality
Emotionally & Physically Cold
Blaming of Others
Poor Digestion
The Solar Plexus Chakra deals with growth and pertains to issues of the:
 Intellect, Personal Power and Control
 When balanced you are able to take action and meet challenges, you feel confident, have self acceptance, and respect for the nature and emotions of others. You are responsible, reliable and have a good sense of humour.
 Ways to Balance your Solar Plexus Chakra when Deficient:
Mentally – Affirmations – “I am positively empowered and successful in all my ventures”
Physically Exercise – Strengthen core muscles
Emotionally – Examine your self esteem, confidence and self respect with a a counsellor.

Throat Chakra = Honest Communication

I Speak 

Honesty Truth Communication

The 5th Chakra, the Throat Chakra, represents our ability to communicate and express ourselves.
Here’s some info on the Throat Chakra
Location of our Throat Chakra: Throat

Emotional issues affecting our Throat Chakra: Communication, self-expression of feelings, speaking the truth,  holding secrets.

Color: Blue

Healing Exercises:

  • Singing

Healing Foods:

  • Juices and teas
  • Fruits (all kinds)
Purposes learning to take responsibility for one’s own needs
Physical Dysfunctions sore throat, mouth ulcers, scoliosis, swollen glands, thyroid dysfunctions, laryngitis, voice problems, gum or tooth problems, TMJ
Mental / Emotional Issues personal expression, creativity, addiction, criticism, faith, decision making (choices), will, lack of authority
Area of Body Governed throat, thyroid, trachea, neck vertebrae, mouth, teeth, gums, esophagus, parathyroid, hyperthalemus

Extracts from About Healing & Mind Body Green


Hygge Living

Hygge (sounds a bit like ‘hooga’)

 Danish word meaning a “complete absence of anything annoying, irritating or emotionally overwhelming, and the presence of and pleasure from comforting, gentle and soothing things”.

Hygge is as Danish as pork roast and cold beer and it goes far in illuminating the Danish soul. In essence, hygge means creating a nice, warm atmosphere and enjoying the good things in life with good people around you. The warm glow of candlelight is hygge. Friends and family – that’s hygge too. And let’s not forget the eating and drinking – preferably sitting around the table for hours on end discussing the big and small things in life. Perhaps the Danish idea of hygge explains why the Danes are often considered the happiest people in the world?

The high season of hygge

The high season of hygge is Christmas. Danes lead a secular lifestyle but when it comes to religious holidays, they pull out the stops. Danish winters are known to be long and dark, and so the Danes fight the darkness with their best weapon: hygge, and the millions of candles that go with it. If you have ever been to Tivoli Gardens or walked the streets of Copenhagen during the festive season, you have an idea of what Danes can do with lighting, mulled wine (known as gløgg for the locals), blankets and oversize scarves. If you haven’t maybe it’s time you try.

Summer hygge

Picnics in the park, barbeques with friends, outdoor concerts, street festivals and bike rides.

The origins of Danish hygge

Hygge didn’t originate in the Danish language but in Norwegian, where it meant something like “well-being.” It first appeared in Danish writing around the end of the 18th Century and the Danes have embraced it ever since. One good thing about hygge is that you can apply it anywhere.


About Chakras

Why am I unwell and how can I heal?

 The chakras relate to the quality of your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health.

 Chakras are energy centers and part of the energy body. Each chakra corresponds to a different part of the body and has a different function.

The 7 main Chakras are:

Crown – top of head (issues of spirituality)

Third Eye – between the eyes (issues of decision making)

Throat – throat (issues of communication)

Heart – chest (issues of love)

Solar Plexus -upper abdomen (issues of self worth)

Sacral – lower abdomen (issues of well-being)

Root – base of spine (issues of survival)

As ill health can occur when any of these chakras are out of balance, identifying whether one of your chakras is deficient or in excess is a valuable tool and enables you to take action to balance it and start the process of healing emotionally and physically.

These 7 Major Chakras (energy centers) are in general three to four inches in diameter. They control and energize the major and vital organs of the visible physical body.

They are just like power stations that supply life energy to different organs. When the power stations malfunction or go out of balance, the corresponding vital organs become sick or diseased because they do not have enough life energy to operate properly.

When they are balanced you feel happy, healthy and whole.

Please go to my ‘Chakras, Chakra Balancing and Chakra Colours’ categories for more information.


Nature’s Air Filters

Home Health

Plants are a powerhouse of wellness for your home. They’ll provide you with a host of benefits, and they’ll make your house look great while doing it.

Natural Air Filters

According to a NASA study that focused on some of the most common indoor chemical pollutants (benzene, formaldehyde, & trichloroethylene) indoor plants made a significant reduction, especially of benzene and formaldehyde.

They purify your air

You probably know that plants convert carbon dioxide into oxygen; plants in your home are no exception. Oxygen affects every part of your body and mind, and making sure you get quality air is essential to your well-being.

Did you know NASA uses plants on the International Space Station to help with air quality? Certain species purify the air of toxins like benzene, formaldehyde, and more. In order to do this efficiently, the researchers at NASA recommend at least one plant per 100 square feet of home or office space.

Top Detoxifying Indoor Plants

  • Peace Lily: filters benzene, formaldehyde, trichloroethylene, xylene, toluene & ammonia.
  • Snake Plant: filters benzene, formaldehyde, trichloroethylene, xylene, & toluene.
  • Aloe Vera Plant: filters benzene & formalehyde.
  • English Ivy: filters benzene, formaldehyde, trichloroethylene, xylene, & toluene.
  • Florist’s Daisy/Pot Mum: filters benzene, formaldehyde, trichloroethylene, xylene, toluene & ammonia.
  • Mass Cane: filters benzene, formaldehyde, & trichloroethylene.
  • Gerbera Daisy: filters benzene, formaldehyde, & trichloroethylene.
  • Weeping Fig: filters formaldehyde, xylene & toluene.

They make your house a home

This is probably the best catchall for all those intangible qualities that having more plants will bring to your home. Plants are living things, and when you’re surrounded by living things you will feel better; you’re literally bringing more life into your house! There’s something about bringing live pieces of nature inside that just radiates a healthy energy throughout the room.

Fragrant plants like dwarf Kaffir lime trees will also fill the room with the most wonderful scents. It’s an all-natural alternative to those wall plug-ins filled with artificial fragrance chemicals. Other aromatics like mint, lemon grass, bay leaves, and basil (as well other others) have the added bonus of naturally repelling bugs.

All in all, when you have a lot of plants in your house, the benefits reach multiple aspects of your life. You’re improving the air you breathe, naturally freshening your air, repelling insects, and bringing a unique energy into your home.