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Shake It Off

I find I can get myself out of dark times so much faster. The writing helps. I’m calmer and gentler with myself. I allow the initial confusion and processing over what I’m feeling.

All this feeling is okay. I’m growing and understanding my emotional messages and gaining emotional strength.

Even though it may not seem like it, being sensitive is my greatest gift. I can now shake it all off, refocus and do something nice today.
Cause the haters gonna hate hate hate... just shake it off, shake it off!:

 

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Self Care When You Have PTSD

This is a good article by (PTSD expert). Devote time to self care, do things that bring you joy each day, be gentle on yourself and create an environment that is supportive to your recovery.
Love & baby steps,
SG x
Always prioritize yourself. | 25 Things To Do When You're Feeling Down
It can be very stressful to experience and have to manage the symptoms of PTSD. They can take quite a toll on many aspects of your daily life. Considering the amount of time that may be regularly devoted to managing your symptoms of PTSD, other areas of your life may get less attention. One such area is self-care. Poor self-care can have a major impact on your mental and physical health. Given this, it is important to take time to devote to self-care. This article provides some coping skills that may help you improve your self-care.

Increasing Self-Compassion

A lack of self-compassion can have a huge impact on self-care and recovery from PTSD. A lack of self-compassion may decrease motivation to continue through those difficult moments in treatment. It may increase feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. A lack of self-compassion can also bring about strong feelings of shame, which may lead you to not adequately care for yourself. In fact, low self-compassion may increase the likelihood that you engage in self-destructive or punishing behaviors, such as self-injury. Self-compassion can be difficult to increase; however, it is very important to do so and is a major part of good self-care. This article provides some strategies for fostering a stronger sense of self-compassion.More »

Increasing Your Contact with Positive Activities

When people are not taking adequate care of themselves, they may be more likely to isolate or avoid activities that they used to enjoy. Not surprisingly, this can have a major impact on a person’s mood, further increasing the desire to avoid and isolate. Part of taking good care of yourself is making sure you stay active and in touch with activities and relationships that you enjoy and find rewarding. One way to do this is through behavioral activation. This article takes you through a series of steps that will help you increase the number of positive activities that you engage in on a daily basis. More »

Improving Your Self-Esteem Through Self-Supportive Statements

Many people with PTSD may suffer from low self-esteem. The symptoms of PTSD can be very difficult to cope with. In addition, many people with PTSD also experience other difficulties, such as depression. Due to these difficulties, people with PTSD may experience negative thoughts about themselves, resulting in low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness. Therefore, it is very important to learn how to catch these thoughts and combat them with positive thoughts. In doing so, you can serve as your own source of social support. More »

Coping with Sleep Problems

Getting enough sleep is a major part of increasing your self-care. Getting adequate sleep can have a major effect on your mood, energy, ability to problem-solve and think clearly, and physical health. Unfortunately, many people with PTSD experience significant problems with sleeping. This article presents some basic coping strategies that may help improve your sleep. More »

Self-Care and Your Emotional Health

Although we may not think much about it, exercise, our diet, and the amount of sleep we get are all very important aspects of self-care, and self-care is incredibly important to our emotional health. A major effect of poor self-care is that it can “muddy” or “cloud” our emotions. When we are tired, hungry, overly stressed out, or in bad physical shape, we may be more reactive or have stronger emotions. There are a number of ways to improve self-care and reduce the occurrence of cloudy emotions. Some activities that can help you improve your self-care (and your emotional health) are described in this article. More »

Self-Soothing Coping Strategies

Uncomfortable and stressful emotions are common among people with PTSD. Many of these emotions (shame, anger, guilt) can be particularly difficult to sit with. Self-soothing coping strategies can be particularly helpful for these emotions, as they are focused on caring for yourself and treating yourself in a compassionate manner. Effective self-soothing coping strategies may be those that involve one or more of the five senses (touch, taste, smell, sight, and sound). Learn some examples of self-soothing strategies for each sense. This article presents some common self-soothing coping strategies that may be particularly helpful for someone with PTSD. More »

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Hygge Living

Hygge (sounds a bit like ‘hooga’)

 Danish word meaning a “complete absence of anything annoying, irritating or emotionally overwhelming, and the presence of and pleasure from comforting, gentle and soothing things”.

Hygge is as Danish as pork roast and cold beer and it goes far in illuminating the Danish soul. In essence, hygge means creating a nice, warm atmosphere and enjoying the good things in life with good people around you. The warm glow of candlelight is hygge. Friends and family – that’s hygge too. And let’s not forget the eating and drinking – preferably sitting around the table for hours on end discussing the big and small things in life. Perhaps the Danish idea of hygge explains why the Danes are often considered the happiest people in the world?

The high season of hygge

The high season of hygge is Christmas. Danes lead a secular lifestyle but when it comes to religious holidays, they pull out the stops. Danish winters are known to be long and dark, and so the Danes fight the darkness with their best weapon: hygge, and the millions of candles that go with it. If you have ever been to Tivoli Gardens or walked the streets of Copenhagen during the festive season, you have an idea of what Danes can do with lighting, mulled wine (known as gløgg for the locals), blankets and oversize scarves. If you haven’t maybe it’s time you try.

Summer hygge

Picnics in the park, barbeques with friends, outdoor concerts, street festivals and bike rides.

The origins of Danish hygge

Hygge didn’t originate in the Danish language but in Norwegian, where it meant something like “well-being.” It first appeared in Danish writing around the end of the 18th Century and the Danes have embraced it ever since. One good thing about hygge is that you can apply it anywhere.

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Steps to Emotional Recovery

Don't cry

“Pain (any pain–emotional, physical, mental) has a message. The information it has about our life can be remarkably specific, but it usually falls into one of two categories: “We would be more alive if we did more of this,” and, “Life would be more lovely if we did less of that.” Once we get the pain’s message, and follow its advice, the pain goes away.” ~ Peter McWilliams

Have you noticed how afraid we all are of feeling any emotional pain? And how we would do anything in our power to avoid it? Nobody wants it. We all try to get rid of it. We all try to hide and run away from it, and the irony is that the more we try to reject and resist it, the more intense it gets and the longer it stays with us.

Its ok to feel

Allowing emotions is healthy~ working through emotions is love of self~ soul~O

We all have our ups and downs. We all experience emotional pain from time to time. But that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with us. It doesn’t mean we’re ‘broken’ or ‘defective’. On the contrary. It only shows that we are human. That we have feelings and emotions.

For 10 years,  I got bashed for my emotions. I will never again let someone tell me not show emotions or cry. I'll be damn!!!

Today I would like to share with you 12 tips for recovering from emotional pain. So that you can continue living your life in peace and harmony and do the things you so much enjoy doing.

1. Embrace with grace all that you face.

“Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you.” ~ Wayne Dyer 

Let go of any feelings of anger, disgust or frustration you might have towards yourself, your emotional pain and your current reality. Resist nothing. Embrace with grace all that you face. Surrender to what is. Accept what you’re going through. All your thoughts, feelings and frustrations. Accept your emotional pain as if you have chosen it. 

i am not fine at all

2. Give yourself time.

It takes time to drive out the darkness from our minds and our hearts. It takes time to accept the presence of emotional pain into our lives. So give yourself time. Time to rest, time to heal and time to fully recover. Be gentle with yourself and trust that everything happens exactly as it’s supposed to happen. 

I remember feeling this way every day .. All I needed was that time to heal myself. Time to grow. Time to learn. Time to realize. People need time and patience.

Everything is going to be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end #PICHICHI #Mentality

3. Let go of control – Allow

“There is a time for being ahead, a time for being behind; a time for being in motion, a time for being at rest; a time for being vigorous, a time for being exhausted; a time for being safe, a time for being in danger. The Master sees things as they are, without trying to control them. She lets them go their own way, and resides at the center of the circle.” ~ Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching 

Emotional Fatigue

Always...M.E. is horrible.  It isn't 'fatigue' or 'tiredness', it is complete exhaustion.

IT IS TIME TO REST ~ "It is an ever living battle to remind myself that I am enough, you are enough…we have done enough, we have enough, we will always have enough…we know enough……etc……….that ENOUGH BATTLE is the one that never lets us rest" Melody via her BraveGirlsClub blog entry: ….rest is not weakness…..

Please refrain yourself from making comments like: “I have been feeling like this for far too long. I should be fine by now.  Why does it take so long for this pain to be gone?” and so on. Allow things to follow their natural course. Allow yourself to heal at your own pace. Let go of the need to control the healing process. Let go of the need to speed up your recovery.

4. Suffer consciously.

Observe your emotional pain, your anguish and frustrations. Observe the constant stream of negative thoughts that run through your mind. The dreadful stories that keep feeding your pain, but choose not to identify yourself with them. See yourself as the one who’s observing all that emotional pain and all that discomfort. But don’t make the pain part of who you are. Don’t make it your person life story. Don’t claim it as your own.

#AWAKENINGWOMEN: It is safe to feel emotions.   www.kimberleyjones.com  Beautiful image created by my graphics angel, Jennifer Cairns   Daybreak Design   Info@daybreakdesign.ca

“Suffering consciously is when you feel, sense and accept the suffering. It is not suffering anymore it is just pain. To be suffering you must have an unhappy me with a story and the world that is doing it to me.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

It's OK to Feel Bad  Go ahead and admit it. You have to acknowledge your disappointment in order to get past it and move on!

5. Love your pain away – Self Care

Nobody likes to be in the presence of pain. We all want to get rid of it. To run as far away from it as we possibly can. But there are times when pain demands our presence, our focus and attention. There are times when pain demands to be felt. So take the time to know your emotional pain. To nourish it, to understand it. Don’t curse your pain. Love your pain and it will go away.

Be gentle on yourself, you are hurting.

Be kind.

Love Yourself print by Lim Heng Swee (I had to source this image myself before I repinned it. Remember, folks -- DON'T REPIN WITHOUT A PROPER SOURCE!)

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” ~ Martin Luther King,

6. Give time, time.

“Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.” ~ Regina Brett

It takes time to drive out the darkness from our minds and from our hearts. It takes time to heal our wounds and accept the presence of emotional pain into our lives. So give time, time.

don't take these moments for granted

7. Spend time alone with yourself.

When you love someone, you spend private time with that person, quality time. And in the dark moments of our lives, when pain is present in our hearts and in our minds, spending time alone with ourselves is one of the best gift we can give to ourselves.  

Take the time to be alone with yourself. To acknowledge, love and appreciate the parts of you that are beautiful. To love yourself and to know yourself. To rest, time to heal and to fully recover from all that you are feeling.

Hold on to that cozy feeling

“Your light is seen, your heart is known, your soul is cherished by more people than you might imagine. If you knew how many others have been touched in wonderful ways by you, you would be astonished. If you knew how many people feel so much for you, you would be shocked. You are far more wonderful than you think you are. Rest with that. Rest easy with that. Breathe again. You are doing fine. More than fine. Better than fine. You’re doin’ great. So relax. And love yourself today.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch

8. Reach out for help and support.

“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” ~ Karl Marx (composer)

12 unexpected things to make someones day

Reach out for emotional help and support from those you love and trust. Surround yourself with cheerful and happy people. People who can make you laugh, who can make you see how beautiful life is and who can show you that there’s always something to look forward to.

9. Let nature heal and comfort you. 

“One has to be alone, under the sky, Before everything falls into place and one finds his or her own place in the midst of it all. We have to have the humility to realize ourselves as part of nature.” ~ Thomas Merton

Spend more time outdoors and Look outside in nature for evidence of decay, destruction and death. Of rebirth, rejuvenation, and renewal. And remind yourself that you too are part of nature. Allow nature to be your wise friend, teacher and companion. Allow nature to heal and comfort you. To teach you more about the infinite circle of life. About birth, life, death, rebirth and about yourself.

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10. Claim nothing as your own.

Love everything but cling on to nothing. Make peace with this idea that nothing in this life lasts forever, that nothing is yours to keep. Live each day as if it were your last. Each moment as if it were your only moment. Make the best of everything life sends your way and waste no time on arguing against what is.

“Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” ~ Dalai Lama

Sometimes you've got to let go of what distracting you.

“A person who lives moment to moment, who goes on dying to the past, is never attached to anything. Attachment comes from the accumulated past. If you can be unattached to the past every moment, then you are always fresh, young, just born. You pulsate with life and that pulsation gives you immortality. You are immortal, only unaware of the fact.” ~ Osho

11. Turn your wounds into wisdom. 

Every experience that comes your way, comes your way for a reason. Seek to know what that reason is. Seek to learn from every painful experience and every painful interaction life sends your way. Be an alchemist. Turn your wounds into wisdom and your difficulties into opportunities. Let your pain make you better, not bitter.

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“Out of clutter, find simplicity. From discord, find harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” ~ Albert Einstein

12. No pain is forever. 

If you’re still alive, if you’re still breathing, it only means that there’s still a lot of life for you out there. A lot of places for you to go to, many new and exciting things to do, to learn and to love. So pick yourself up. Dust yourself off, and start all over again. Start rebuilding your life and make it ridiculously amazing. Don’t let a bad and painful experience make you feel like you have a bad and painful life. Don’t let a rainy day dampen your fun. Never forget that the Sun always shines above the clouds. It’s always up there.

No love like self love...it highers standards

“Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains, losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures.” ~ Joseph Addison

Source: “12 Tips for Recovering from Emotional Pain,” from purposefairy.com, by Luminita D. Saviuc