When Life Robs You..

Mental Illness

Mental Health is an industry..

An industry trying to sell an unsuspecting public on the idea that the way to ‘fix’ unwanted behaviour and feelings is with a brain chemistry altering pill.

These pills are now named ‘lifestyle’ drugs..

So now you can live your life in a way that is not ‘your truth’ and not feel too bad about it.

And after all if everybody’s doing it then it must be okay.

Maybe I have a problem with the way they are marketed, or that people use them long term without making changes in their lives.. believing their minds are deficient in some way..

So why do I felt so strongly …  because I suffered from chronic depression for 40+ years and I learnt a great deal..

The real problem is we were not born to be mindless sheep.. we were born to have personal power.

Some of us lost ours…  some very early on due to abuse, neglect, trauma, others guilt or bad decisions or a combination.

… life has robbed us..

I have always found people who experience depression or emotional, spiritual or psychological suffering to be deep thinkers, highly intelligent, visionaries, idealists, creatives, sensitives, salt of the earth types.

They ‘see’ things as they really are but all too often they remain passive to change anything. Often out of fear or that they allow themselves to get pulled along by the wolves of this world.

They fail to see the power they truly have and end up instead ‘willing victims’. They conform and lose their voice.

This causing internal unrest, distress and confusion- really a great lack of inner peace, as they are not being true to themselves or their beliefs or even who they really are..

Being a sheep is never a great option for those of vision.. that indeed would make you depressed, distressed, and have your mind fluctuating between what is right for you and what is wrong for you..

I have alway seen them as the sensitive good in an often evil world. I see them as people who have important gifts.

I just wish they could see themselves as that and get up, get constructively angry, look at the big picture on what they need to heal and go on to make their own small but significant mark in this crazy and often evil world.

Maybe they need that as motivation to get up, to heal their life, to change, to live their dream and to take back their personal power.. than some ‘lifestyle’ pill.

People suffering with depression and mental confusion need to allow themselves the time and space to heal. They need courage and encouragement, love, warmth, understanding, compassion, someone trustworthy to hear them, to look into their pasts, to gain self respect, self love, self compassion and self confidence and to take back their power.. and live their dreams.. whether that be to assist others in some healing way, bring beauty into this world, or love and compassion, make healthy changes in industry, politics, medical fields etc..

Your vision is needed..

Love and baby steps,



Sadomasochists Number One Weapon ..

Powerful post by Jeanine A Thriver. If they can cause you to doubt yourself they can control you.

Jeanine A Thriver


The main weapon Sadomasochists use against you is your doubt…

If they can get you to doubt your impressions…

If they can get you to doubt your judgement..

If they can get you to doubt your knowledge…

If they can get you to doubt your experiences..

If they can get you to doubt your inspiration…

If they can get you to doubt your truth…

If they can get you to doubt your validity…

Then they can control you…

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What to Do When You Don’t Know Your Next Step

"I've looked into the sky a hundred times and I've seen the stars that shine so bright. I'm sure that one of them is you, my friend, watching and waiting and hoping that I'll be alright."  -  Moonpools and Caterpillars

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What do you do when you feel lost and don’t know what your next step is going to be?

What do you do when life no longer wants to help you achieve the many things you so desperately wanted to achieve?

What do you do when nothing you do seems to be right anymore, and when all your dreams, goals and plans seem to be falling apart?

For those of us who are very attached to this picture we have in our head of how life it’s supposed to be and how everything should function in this world, having things go different then expected can be quite a fearful, shocking and terrifying experience.

We like to think that we are in control of ourselves and our lives. We like to think that we are in control of what happens in our relationships, our homes and in the world around us, but he truth of the matter is that we have little or no control over any of these things. In fact, most of us have no control over our own thoughts and feelings, let alone the lives of those we love and the world we live in.

A Course In Miracles speak about this so beautifully: “You who cannot even control yourself should hardly aspire to control the universe.”

Life has its own path, it’s own rhythm, its own flow and its own purpose, and our job is not to control life, but rather to go with the flow of life. Our job is to follow the rhythm of life and not try to disrupt the natural flow of things.

When we try to interfere with the natural flow of life. When we make all kind of rigid plans and then desperately try to adjust life according to them, we can’t help but get hurt. How can you not get hurt when, instead of going with the natural flow of life, we desperately try to push against it? Thinking that our plans are better than the ones life has for us. And assuming that we are smarted and wiser than life itself.

Woody Allen once said that “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” And even though for a very long time I couldn’t really understand what these words meant, because you see, I knew we have free will and that we are the creators of our own lives, I eventually got it. 

You see, I have come to realize that there are two sides to us. There is the mind created self who is fearful and selfish, constantly seeking for love, approval and validation in other people, in things, experiences, etc.. Constantly striving, but never arriving. This side of us that is rigid, attached to how things should be, how life should unfold and how everyone should behave. And who has no interest in letting go of control and putting its trust in life. And then you have the real you, which I like to call the Soul, or your Authentic Self.

This side of you is overflowing with love. Love for yourself and love for the world around you. This side of you knows the reason of your existence, and the purpose of your life. It recognizes itself in all things and all people, and it knows that everything that happens in your life, it’s meant to serve you, to grow you and to strengthen you. This side of you lives in peace, joy and harmony, and loves to go with the flow of life. It has no interest in clinging, in controlling or getting attached to rigid ideas, plans and concepts about how life should be and it seems to have no difficulties in trusting in the wisdom of life and dancing to life’s rhythm. And when you “get lost”, when you feel lost, it’s usually because these two sides switch places. Not because they want to, but because the real you, your Soul, is a lot stronger and a lot more powerful than your mind created self, and it’s constantly seeking to bring you back to the light, and back to living the life you are meant to live. Wanting you to experience your own beauty and perfection, allowing your light shine as brightly as possible so that others can recognize themselves in your own light and start living their lives from the Soul level as well.

 “It is good to feel lost… because it proves you have a navigational sense of where “Home” is. You know that a place that feels like being found exists. And maybe your current location isn’t that place but, Hallelujah, that unsettled, uneasy feeling of lost-ness just brought you closer to it.” ~ Erika Harris

So you see, when you get lost and don’t know what the next step is going to be, you shouldn’t be scared, since getting lost is just another attempt of your real self to bring you back on your life path. Back to helping you craft your life on a strong, loving and healthy foundation. Your Soul is there to guide you, to lead you and to help you take the necessary steps towards creating the truthful, loving, joyful and balanced life you truly deserve. Teaching you how to let go of the need to control everything, and helping you to relax into life. When you feel lost, your Soul is trying to get your attention, reminding you to be soft like water. To let go of fixed plans and concepts and allow events to follow their natural course. To surrender to what is and trust that by doing so, life will take great care of you. Because it will.

P.S. In my next post I’ll share with you a list of things that you ca do as you work towards finding your way back into the light and back to walking the path your Soul is meant to be walking. So keep an eye on your email :)

With all my love,

* Another great post from Luminita Saviuc at ‘Purpose Fairy’ (purposefairy.com)


Trust What You Feel

Holding Your Energy

Vibes don’t lie. Keep yourself emotionally, spiritually and physically safe.

Think about some of the symptoms you get when you are around certain people .. emotional symptoms, psychic symptoms, physical symptoms.


People that confuse you or play subtle mind games ..

People whose words don’t match their actions.

Or they judge you but are incapable of self evaluation or self reflection.

People who don’t understand you ..  and don’t care to.

Maybe you get headaches from confusion, feel out of sorts – uncomfortable, addictions flare up from the stress, insomnia from stress, you don’t feel safe opening up with them, anxiety around them, panic attacks, feeling of extreme tiredness or depression, mental or spiritual confusion, a feeling of dread if you feel you have to see them..

You body doesn’t lie, remember these symptoms and think about who is stressing you or what is stressing you.

People who make you feel bad are bad for you!

Your body is the barometer of your soul. It is wise. It’s your early warning system, your internal radar – Trust it.

It is a sign you are not safe with this person.

You deserve good health and peace in your life and to associate with healthy people.

A true friend has your very best interests at heart and would NEVER…Take from you without giving back. You deserve to be with friends who don’t take you for granted. If you feel like you are being taken advantage of, respect yourself enough to confront the situation. This doesn’t mean you have to stop being friends, but you need to evaluate your friendships and realize where to draw the line when you give yourself to certain people.

Love and baby steps,



Conflicting Choices

The place of “Cognitive Dissonance” in Narcissistic Victim Syndrome

Understanding Cognitive Dissonance in relation to narcissistic abuse: Stockholm syndrome involves the victim paradoxically forming a positive relationship with their oppressor; this is called “Trauma Bonding”. When victims of narcissistic are suffering from Stockholm Syndrome, they are often seen by outsiders as somehow having participated in some bizarre way that seems to support their abuse. However, to understand how the trauma bonding occurs, it is especially relevant to understand what is involved in the decision-making and problem-solving process of the victim. This theory is known as Cognitive Dissonance.


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