Healing is a process, it takes work, it takes time and it takes baby steps.
There are no quick fixes or magic pills. The choice to heal generally starts when you have reached a major crisis point in your life.
Major relationship issues, addictions, serious or chronic health problems, excessive stress / breakdown, spiritual crisis or confusion / serious mental health issues, chronic depression, career dissatisfaction, financial issues, loss of a loved one, issues with control – abuse, neglect or trauma etc..
Something needs to change, you need to feel better, you need to understand more and you want to live. There is no more denial, no more blame. you are ready to take responsibility for your life and for your emotional, physical and spiritual health.
You’ve used things to cope and you now realise, that no one can save you but yourself.
You want to look better, feel better and act better, have a meaningful existence and a great life.
Healing takes courage and faith. It takes the belief that you deserve freedom and peace, happiness, wellbeing and contentment.
Healing takes three forms:
Healing the Physical
Healing the Emotional
Healing the Spiritual
All three are needed. All three interlap. Mind, Body & Soul
We all know that a healthy diet and regular exercise are an important part of health and physical healing. We know seeing a counsellor or therapist regularly can be an important part of emotional health and healing but what most people don’t realize is that these two things alone will not heal you.
True healing is much deeper than that.
The spiritual aspect of health is overlooked by modern society. Due to this, it has tragically caused huge confusion, stress and illness in people.
It is misunderstood.
It is feared and it is avoided – like pretending our spirit doesn’t exist. Many fear delving into that side of life. They don’t really understand what it means or where to go for balanced guidance or help.
I personally found that that the majority of spiritual healers or alternative therapists, although well-meaning are not fully healed themselves, are ‘too open’, and therefore are not balanced in their approach.
Choosing who to see for guidance can either be a very painful lesson or an uplifting experience.
Most often you need to keep going back regularly, keep handing out money and you end up in the same place (or deeply confused or worse traumatized) and the deep underlying emotional or spiritual issues still remain.
Many times those that help heal your spirit are people you randomly come across in your life.
The people you meet for a time and who pass on their hard sought wisdom.They know the suffering you’re experiencing because they’ve been there. These are the Wounded Healers.
Healing Your Past
Spiritual healing requires looking into the past and the present to create a better future, it requires self analysis and self reflection. It requires courage and it requires faith. Sometimes you have to go back before you can move forward.
My blog will delve into the spiritual aspect of healing from what I’ve experienced so far. It’s my goal to keep it simple and understandable rather than mystical and while you may not agree on all my subjects, keeping an open mind is important.
The spiritual aspect of life is not meant to be a big secret only given to a select few, and it’s not meant to be weird or confusing. It can be a safe and healing process where you slowly gain wisdom, understanding, happiness and good health.
Just like everything in life, there is good and bad stuff out there.
Use your instincts and learn to step away if need be to keep yourself safe. There are many times I wish I’d done just that, it took me a long time and a lot of painful lessons to finally trust myself and my instincts, and to walk away from often well meaning but potentially damaging people.
If you are reading this blog, like me, you are on your own quest for healing, understanding and well being.
I hope from some of my own experiences I can be of benefit to you in some way.
True healing is for the brave, so never give up – in the end it will be worth it.
Love & baby steps,