People often wonder why I am so passionate about what I do. Why bother working so hard whilst struggling to make ends meet when it would be so much easier to just “go and get a proper job”…
It wouldn’t be easier; in fact I’d most definitely completely lose the plot.
You see here’s the irony (life is indeed always a paradox):
This week I spoke at a conference on a revolutionary mental health transformation project in the NHS about how vital it is to talk openly about our feelings in order to avoid the repression of them causing mental distress. We are campaigning to de- pathologize human emotion as an ‘illness’ and redefine it in terms of a normal reaction to traumatic life experiences.
Hardly rocket science is it? Common sense really.
Then this morning I tried to broach talking about our feelings surrounding mum’s latest hospital admission with…
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In my quest to better understand how I (repeatedly) got to be on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse, I have read several books that indicate there are many common traits evident in the victims of narcissists, not only among the narcissists themselves.
In Alice Miller’s book, “The Drama of the Gifted Child”, I first read about some interesting commonalities between narcissists and their victims, as well. According to the author, these common points are (from the book’s second section, “Depression and Grandiosity: Two Related Forms of Denial”):
• A false self that has led to the loss of the potential true self
• A fragility of self-esteem because of a lack of confidence in one’s own feelings and wishes
• Denial of rejected feelings
• A preponderance of exploitative relationships
• An enormous fear of loss of love and therefore a great readiness to conform
• Split-off aggression
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Roadblocks To Our Destiny
I’m trying to create a new life and it often feels like there are a million blocks that are purposely placed in my path. It’s so frustrating! I’m continually having to adjust in order to keep moving forward.
Somedays it makes me down, some days it makes me tired, some days I feel defeated by the endless roadblocks, obstacles, walls, pit-stops, delays and detours. Wherever I’m trying to get to, it’s certainly not one straight line to getting there.
There really are roadblocks to our destiny.
I’m trying hard not to give up. I can make adjustments, climb over the walls, take detours even if they take longer and prolong my stress a little. I can figure out new ways to keep going..
I can’t afford to let challenges stop me or make me sink. I need to accept there will always be challenges and roadblocks.
Today I have felt a little defeated as my ex. is making my life difficult through the children, just when life was getting easier.
I pity him as he still has the need to control even though he has remarried and has another child..
I pity him but I refuse to pity myself!
This movie is a good example of roadblocks on your path and never giving up!
What is the best revenge against a narcissist?
This question is a search term which someone used online which brought them to my blog. Whether they found what they were looking for or not, I don’t know.
And I don’t know what the best revenge against a narcissist is.
I could relate my own experiences of the narcissists whom I have know and had to live with and deal with. But I did not go down the revenge route, other than the living well is the best revenge path (and it took me ages to figure that out and then do it).
I could say – Don’t go down this path, it is not recommended by me, not if you’re dealing with a real narcissist, someone with NPD, rather than just someone whom you think is a narcissist but isn’t one. If they are…
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I just gotta believe in myself and my abilities :o)