Time to let go of the ‘shoulds’ and de-prioritize
You may be putting off activities for good reason, so be honest with yourself, do you really want to do them? Is there something more important you could be doing with your precious energy. Is your procrastination a sign from your intuition.
By letting them go, you can make space for what you really want/ need in this moment,
‘Action expresses priorities’.
Start looking for the areas of your life plagued by “shoulds.”
I am a yoga instructor, yet I always think it’s unnecessary when people say they should do yoga. There are many other opportunities to find inner calm or exercise or even wear those killer yoga pants. Maybe it doesn’t make sense for you, even though your friends are doing it. That’s okay.
Take notice of the things you keep de-prioritizing.
We like to think that when we will be older, we will have ample time to get all the things in order that we neglected when we were young. Maybe you really don’t need to have your photos organized. Maybe the boxes will do. You can use the time you would have spent organizing (or trying to talk yourself into organizing) creating new memories instead.
Acknowledge that if something brings more frustration than joy, it may not be worth your time.
There are many things that we can’t control in our lives. What we do in our free time, however, we can control. After my second knitting class, I realized that I wasn’t getting the benefits that knitting devotees swore by. I was spending most of the time silently cursing. It wasn’t my passion. I recently tossed those knitting needles. Maybe another version of me will want to pick it up, but the one I know right now certainly doesn’t. And there’s no reason to waste time trying to like something I don’t.
There’s no better time to explore this concept than during the “coulda woulda shoulda”–laden holiday season. We tend to add on to already full plates rather than using this time to sort out what isn’t actually a good use of our time.
Maybe you don’t want to travel this year. Maybe you don’t want to be in a relationship and you are enjoying the sweet freedom of being single. Toss some of those bucket list items to the side. We can start living today, with honest expressions of who we are.
Why not just say, “Fuck it”?
Most problems with motivation come from subconscious thought patterns. Interestingly, many of of these patterns are intended to motivate you.
The problem is, they are ineffective strategies learned long ago when you had no idea what was going on.
Other causes of poor motivation come from subconscious attachments to self-deprivation. Yes, you can become attached to a deprived, empty life, believe it or not. In this case, a life of passion isn’t familiar to you, so you avoid it.
Begin to set yourself free by learning about the ineffective motivation patterns that hold you back
Here are seven common motivational styles that are actually de-motivating – and what to do about each of them. Can you see yourself in one or more of the examples?