They’re critical, they worry, they pry, they offer their opinions when they haven’t been asked for. They just can’t let you be. And yet, you love them.
Uncertainty and change in the life of a loved one (that’s you) can send them into a tailspin. And it’s not because they’re awful people, it’s usually because they love you and are deeply, genuinely concerned about you.
But that’s their business. Not yours.
Anytime you start a new purpose-driven venture, you are vulnerable.
Your ideas are young and tender, and your emotions may be, too. You need time for things to be soft and unformed.
This is your time to not know, be messy, and not have all the answers.
Perfect fodder for the worriers in your life.
And so, you must protect your infant.
Let me explain…
I’m told that when you’re a new parent and can take your baby home from the hospital, you’re instructed not to take baby out and about to public places for the first six weeks or so. Why? Because there are all kinds of germs and buggies that baby’s system isn’t equipped to fight off yet.
Bebe just got here. She’s susceptible to all kinds of dangers that older kids aren’t. Bebe can’t help it; she’s just a bebe. So mom and dad have to protect her by not dragging her out to Target where something like a stranger’s sneeze or grubby hands could seriously endanger her health.
In this way, your new venture is like a newborn. Your ideas are delicate and not prepared to withstand airborne diseases like criticism, raised eyebrows, and worried voices.
So be careful where you parade your new ideas around. Don’t take your baby to Target.
Not everyone in your life needs to be privy to your new developments. I’m not suggesting that you isolate yourself and try to go through this alone, because that’s not helpful either. You will need support. You will need to talk.
But share this new information with people who can handle it.
And be aware that you may be more sensitive than usual. It’s easy to misconstrue an innocent comment during times of transition.
When you have everything figured out and have a game plan, when you can talk about these changes with confidence and clarity, then consider opening the door to conversation with the worriers. You’ll have answers to their questions, and won’t feel attacked.
So how to handle inquires until then? With honesty and compassion (for you and them).
“You’re so thoughtful to ask. Things are going well, but I’m not quite ready to talk about the details yet.”
“Well, I don’t have all the answers yet, but I’m hot on the trail of something good. I’ll tell you more about it when the time is right.”
“I’m actually keeping things under pretty tight wraps for now. Don’t worry, you’ll hear all about it when I’m ready to make an announcement.”
Simple, straightforward, baby is safe!
By Laura Simms