When Sex Is Love

“If you were abused, maybe you grew up believing you agreed to it or were even responsible for it. Maybe your abuser said you wanted it.

It was easy for her to conclude this if you needed love and affection. In fact, in order to get what feels like love, you may have been willing to engage in sex. You may have believed that sex is love.”

Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual Abuse

~ by Richard B. Gartner Ph.D.

This quote reminds me of my ex-husband. He was a classic narcissist, but under that he was a very damaged little boy. Sex was love to him. He never understood intimacy.

I ‘know’ he was sexually abused as a young child by his father. He doesn’t know it, it’s stored somewhere very deep in an attempt for him to survive and forget. Tragic.

SG x

 

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