“Because of all I have gone and am going through, there may be times when I feel like I have little or no energy. During these times, I will be gentle with myself. I have been through a lot. I need time to recover. I will remember that having an abuser removed is major surgery of the soul. I need time to heal, and I need rest. It is okay for me to let myself take it easy.”
~ J.R Smith
Time to let go of the ‘shoulds’ and de-prioritize
You may be putting off activities for good reason, so be honest with yourself, do you really want to do them? Is there something more important you could be doing with your precious energy. Is your procrastination a sign from your intuition.
By letting them go, you can make space for what you really want/ need in this moment,
‘Action expresses priorities’.
Intrigued?
Start looking for the areas of your life plagued by “shoulds.”
I am a yoga instructor, yet I always think it’s unnecessary when people say they should do yoga. There are many other opportunities to find inner calm or exercise or even wear those killer yoga pants. Maybe it doesn’t make sense for you, even though your friends are doing it. That’s okay.
Take notice of the things you keep de-prioritizing.
We like to think that when we will be older, we will have ample time to get all the things in order that we neglected when we were young. Maybe you really don’t need to have your photos organized. Maybe the boxes will do. You can use the time you would have spent organizing (or trying to talk yourself into organizing) creating new memories instead.
Acknowledge that if something brings more frustration than joy, it may not be worth your time.
There are many things that we can’t control in our lives. What we do in our free time, however, we can control. After my second knitting class, I realized that I wasn’t getting the benefits that knitting devotees swore by. I was spending most of the time silently cursing. It wasn’t my passion. I recently tossed those knitting needles. Maybe another version of me will want to pick it up, but the one I know right now certainly doesn’t. And there’s no reason to waste time trying to like something I don’t.
There’s no better time to explore this concept than during the “coulda woulda shoulda”–laden holiday season. We tend to add on to already full plates rather than using this time to sort out what isn’t actually a good use of our time.
Maybe you don’t want to travel this year. Maybe you don’t want to be in a relationship and you are enjoying the sweet freedom of being single. Toss some of those bucket list items to the side. We can start living today, with honest expressions of who we are.
Why not just say, “Fuck it”?
Director and screenwriter, Paul Dalio’s new feature film takes a hard and gritty look at love, mania, creative inspiration, artistic temperament and making peace with bipolar.
Wow, looks interesting.
SG x
Touched with Fire stars Katie Holmes and Luke Kirby as two poets with bipolar disorder whose art is fueled by their emotional extremes. When they meet in a treatment facility, their chemistry is instant and intense driving each other’s mania to new heights. They pursue their passion which breaks outside the bounds of sanity, swinging them from fantastical highs to tormented lows until they ultimately must choose between sanity and love.
Inspired by the film maker’s own struggles overcoming bipolar disorder, Paul Dalio wrote, directed, edited and scored his feature film debut which also includes performances by Griffin Dunne, Christine Lahti and Bruce Altman.
(In cinemas February 12th 2016)
Emerging
Become known, become apparent, become evident, be revealed, come to light, come out, transpire, come to the fore, enter the picture, unfold, turn out.
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Many of us need extended time alone as we heal. We’re regaining our strength, repairing our wings.
Separating from your old life and circle can be essential. Don’t judge it, don’t label yourself. Don’t believe that ‘you’re a loner’, or that no-one is like you, or that you don’t fit anywhere.
You just need time in your cocoon, don’t question the time, allow it.
You do fit .. you’re just no longer a caterpillar.
You’re growing and changing.
Your cocoon separates you from the caterpillars and it protects your precious budding wings. Those caterpillars will eat anything!
You’re not isolating, it’s a time of growth, self protection and solitude.
Have patience, when you’re ready to show your colours you’ll emerge and join the butterflies.
SG x
This is beautiful.
