The majority of people who read my blog have been wounded in some form or another (neglect, trauma, sexual, emotional/ psychological or physical abuse). All abuse is equal and damaging no matter what its form.
Often the trauma or abuse originated in early childhood (even if you can’t remember any serious abuse from your immediate family – remember you can’t consciously remember what happened to you or who hurt you when you were very little) … and often very traumatic events are stored differently (very deeply) as a survival mechanism.
I found out at 45 that there were huge secrets in my family. I got regressed after years of chronic ill health and depression and finally answers came up that made sense.
I had always wondered why I was ‘different’.. why I suffered from childhood depression, why I was a little ‘space cadet’ (dissociative) and why I was so creative and intuitive (hyervigilant) and not particularly logical. Life had been extremely hard.
Early childhood abuse sets us up… it sets us up for more abuse throughout our lives. It sets us up for choosing unhealthy partners and friends and it is the major cause of mental illness. It’s also causes unhealthy coping mechanisms and addictions.
Today I have a message for those of you healing from abuse, trauma, neglect and the extreme stress and mental illness associated..
Be kind to yourself, because you are amazing
Be gentle on yourself where others haven’t been – because you are an exquisite soul
Accept yourself.. whether you are creative, shy, anxious, lonely…. a cutter, an overeater, an alcoholic, an anorexic…
Acknowledge your pain and emotions. It is not a sign of strength to repress your feelings.
Love yourself first, every inch of you because you deserve love (your own first) and love that doesn’t hurt.
Remember you have been through enough stress and pain in your life, don’t add to it – No more unloving thoughts directed at yourself.
Accept this present moment – you are doing the best you can healing in a process that takes time, baby steps and courage. You deserve kudos and respect – your own first.
Don’t push yourself, rest if you need to, cry if you need to, create an environment that works for you, write your heart out if you need to, soothe your soul if you need to..
Just remember the exquisite soul you are and treat yourself accordingly.