Emotional Healing From Abuse
The swing between love and hate
It is normal to swing between strong feelings of love and compassion, to strong feelings of hate and anger when healing from an abusive relationship.
It is confusing.. especially confusing for those who do not understand recovery from abuse.
Do not expect them to understand.
It is a sign that you are still emotionally invested. Go easy on yourself and realize it is very difficult to break the dependence you have on each other..
Healing is like being bound together by a thousand strings and only being able to cut one at a time. Be gentle on yourself, it takes time and baby steps.
It’s similar to withdrawing from an unhealthy addiction – sometimes you crave it, miss it and pine for it but ultimately you need to love yourself more than your addiction.
Love and hate both require emotional involvement of some kind. You know you’ve emotionally healed from an unhealthy relationship when you don’t really feel anything towards them anymore (indifference or apathy). You stop thinking about them because you have better healthier things to think about and you can see a great future for yourself without them in it.
You’ve accepted their weaknesses and have forgiven them for your own sake.
You focus on meeting your own needs and on your own healing.. you trust your own instincts and are creating a healthier future for yourself.
Love and baby steps,