How to Live Your Dream When You’re Scared to Death

This is a guest post by Jeff Goins. Jeff is a writer who lives in Nashville. He works for Adventures in Missions and recently released an eBook called You Are a Writer
There is a tragedy in our world today. Most people aren’t living their dreams, and the reason is simple: fear. They’re scared to be who they are.


When you endeavor to find your life’s work, there is a lot at risk:
  • You could fail.
  • You could lose the respect of your friends.
  • You could go broke.

You could mess up in a hundred different ways. But—and this is important—you could also succeed. And until you start living into your calling, you’re robbing the world of a gift.

After years of procrastinating, I finally pursued my dream. I decided to become a writer. To my surprise, I saw success far more quickly than expected: I launched a popular blog, got a publishing contract, and found my true fans—all within a year.

How did this happen? Simple. I believed in the dream before it happened. I didn’t wait for fear to go away; I started living into the reality I was longing for.

If you’re going to live and lead intentionally, you’ll have to do the same. There are three steps you need to take if you’re going to pursue your passion.

Step 1: Declare it. Although I’ve written for most of my life, I never considered myself a writer—not until recently.

When a friend asked what my dream was and I told him I didn’t have one, he said, “That’s funny… because I would’ve thought it was to be a writer.” I said that was probably true.

Then he said something I’ll never forget:

You don’t have to want to be a writer; you are a writer. You just need to write.”

The words resonated in my soul. I realized that before I could expect others to believe something about me, first I would have to believe it myself.

Step 2: Believe it. Friends and family often notice our gifts before we do. They acknowledge the talents and resources we’ve been doubting and dismissing.

The only way to find your dream is to trust the gifts you’ve been given. I’m not talking about a misguided “name it and claim it” philosophy. You need to accept the value you offer, not invent it. But at some point, you need to stop doubting yourself.

There is a word for this: it’s called faith.

Before the ancient Hebrews saw the Promised Land, they believed in it. They trusted in a place they hadn’t yet seen, which brought them through the desert and into their destiny.

You need to grasp the possibility of achieving your dream before it happens. You’ll have to believe it before you see it.

Step 3: Do it. A few years ago, my wife and I attended a concert, and halfway through the show, a man clumsily spilled beer on her coat. I complained to one of the ushers, and he warned the man, but no further action was taken.

Later, I went to the bathroom and returned to a crying wife. She wanted to leave. On our way out of the auditorium, she told me the man had harassed her while I was gone. I was outraged.

Turning around, I marched back into the auditorium, and confronted the man. It was, honestly, one of the scariest things I’ve done as an adult.

I hadn’t stood up to a bully since the second grade, and there I was—in front of a towering, muscle-bound beefcake, calling him an idiot.

With my heart racing and my palms sweating, I demanded respect and an apology. And then something incredible happened.

He said he was sorry.

In that moment, I learned an important lesson: until we act, our values are just dreams. I believed in my wife’s honor—in theory—but until I stood up for her, it was just a good idea.

This is an essential takeaway for all of us called to meaningful work. Although we are not merely what we do, we become what we practice. And if you’re practicing insecurity and fear, what does that make you?

If you have a dream or calling you’re not yet living into, it’s time to get to work:

  1. Declare you are what you’re waiting to be.
  2. Believe in your dream before you see it.
  3. And then do it.

Remember: Until you start living it, you’re only dreaming.


16 Female Role Models

Transforming Personal Pain Into Positive Action

The intent of this list is simple: to highlight the good work of the heroines of the movement to end violence against women wherever they are in the world.

The women in this list hail from 18 countries and 4 continents.

Many of these astounding women have shown that it is possible to transform personal pain that came out of facing gender-based violence into positive action to stop violence against women, to empower themselves and to show other survivors that it is possible to move forward with dignity and happiness.

They have refused to let bitterness and pain get the better of them, opting to stand up for themselves and for other women instead.

Others on this list may not have experienced gender-based violence inflicted on themselves, but they have stepped up to do what is right: to speak up for women and girls who cannot do it for themselves, sometimes at great personal risk.

All this requires immense courage, generosity of spirit and a strong enduring heart.

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Embracing The Feminine

Strong, Capable, Wise, Compassionate, Holistic

” I like strong, independent women; those who, through their strength

never cease to be feminine and never use their beauty as an instrument”

– Mario Testino

Creativity, Imagination, Love, Intuition, Faith, Healing, Empathy, Emotions, Sensuality, Holistic Thinking, Spatial Perception, Strong, Capable, Independent, Beautiful, Passionate, Present Possibilities, Impetuous, Appreciates, Philosophy, ‘Big Picture’ Orientated, Nurturing, Compassionate, Giving, Courageous, Powerful, Wise, Spiritual, Infinite.


Empowering Women

Dalai Love

I am not a Buddhist but I love that the Dalai Lama is a feminist. I particularly like his viewpoint that it’s up to women to take back their power and create the healthy changes required for masculine/ feminine balance in our world.

Woman don’t need to be hard or to behave like men, they need to be strong, know their true worth, and be the beautiful, empowered and wise beings that they are.

To all the beautiful strong women out there … remember who you are..

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 The 100 Most Significant Figures in History… 97 Are Men!

So.. Where Are All The Women?

 From the perspective of women everywhere this list is very sad.

Three women and ninety seven men! Where are all the powerful, intelligent and creative women throughout history?..

I don’t agree with the list but trying to rank the “top 100 most significant figures” in history would be difficult and subjective.

History is a man’s world and this list was made by two men..

Steven Skiena and Charles B. Ward – the authors of  ‘Who’s Bigger? Where Historical Figures Really Rank’ (2013).The views expressed are solely their own. 

I’d love to hear your opinion of this list and of where woman stood and stand as historical and modern influences and why?

The 100 Most Significant Figures in History

1 Jesus

2 Napoleon

3 Muhammad

4 William Shakespeare

5 Abraham Lincoln

6 George Washington

7 Adolf Hitler

8 Aristotle

9 Alexander the Great

10 Thomas Jefferson

11 Henry VIII of England

12 Charles Darwin

13 Elizabeth I of England

14 Karl Marx

15 Julius Caesar

16 Queen Victoria

17 Martin Luther

18 Joseph Stalin

19 Albert Einstein

20 Christopher Columbus

21 Isaac Newton

22 Charlemagne

23 Theodore Roosevelt

24 Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

25 Plato

26 Louis XIV of France

27 Ludwig van Beethoven

28 Ulysses S. Grant

29 Leonardo da Vinci

30 Augustus

31 Carl Linnaeus

32 Ronald Reagan

33 Charles Dickens

34 Paul the Apostle

35 Benjamin Franklin

36 George W. Bush

37 Winston Churchill

38 Genghis Khan

39 Charles I of England

40 Thomas Edison

41 James I of England

42 Friedrich Nietzsche

43 Franklin D. Roosevelt

44 Sigmund Freud

45 Alexander Hamilton

46 Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

47 Woodrow Wilson

48 Johann Sebastian Bach

49 Galileo Galilei

50 Oliver Cromwell

51 James Madison

52 Gautama Buddha

53 Mark Twain

54 Edgar Allan Poe

55 Joseph Smith, Jr.

56 Adam Smith

57 David, King of Israel

58 George III of the United Kingdom

59 Immanuel Kant

60 James Cook

61 John Adams

62 Richard Wagner

63 Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky

64 Voltaire

65 Saint Peter

66 Andrew Jackson

67 Constantine the Great

68 Socrates

69 Elvis Presley

70 William the Conqueror

71 John F. Kennedy

72 Augustine of Hippo

73 Vincent van Gogh

74 Nicolaus Copernicus

75 Vladimir Lenin

76 Robert E. Lee

77 Oscar Wilde

78 Charles II of England

79 Cicero

80 Jean-Jacques Rousseau

81 Francis Bacon

82 Richard Nixon

83 Louis XVI of France

84 Charles V, Holy Roman Emperor

85 King Arthur

86 Michelangelo

87 Philip II of Spain

88 Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

89 Ali, founder of Sufism

90 Thomas Aquinas

91 Pope John Paul II

92 René Descartes

93 Nikola Tesla

94 Harry S. Truman

95 Joan of Arc

96 Dante Alighieri

97 Otto von Bismarck

98 Grover Cleveland

99 John Calvin

100 John Locke


Past-Lives And Historical Personalities

Spiritual Healing, Historical Personalities and Karma

“To be a king and wear a crown is a thing more glorious to them that see it,

 than it is pleasant to them that bear it.”

~ Elizabeth I

When it comes to past lives, most people want to know the same thing. “Was I ever famous?” they will ask. Yet what is fame anyway? It is when one person is known by many they have never met for what they have accomplished in life. That’s it!

“So Who Really Is The ‘ I ‘ That is ‘ Me ‘?”

When we come into greater awareness of our past lives, we understand that we are more than our current personality. We see that we are infinite beings and we connect with the truth about the totality of our existence. We ask ourselves “who really is the I that is me?”

From time to time, the answer to this question leads us to a famous past life (what I like to call “historical personalities”).

How does a historical personality relate to present day life?


People ask about having been famous in past lives because there is a common belief that when a person is famous, their life is perfect, they have no problems, and that they have infinite amounts of time and money to do whatever they want to do. While money and celebrity gives them greater freedom to promote their causes, it also makes their daily life (especially travel) difficult and complicated. The truth is that famous people are not better than everyone else, they are just better known for both their accomplishments and their failings.


People would desire a famous past life less, if they understood the present life energetic burden it carries. So many people putting so much attention on your past life personality means that energy flows to you in the present. For example, one year there was a year-long celebration of the life of one of my recent past life historical personalities. It was a past life I had not healed. All this undue attention literally made me sick until the festivities were over.


The key word in history is story. The stories are created by writers who wish to promote a polished, glorious image of the raw, ignoble past. These stories build up legends about an historical personality that are mainly lies (compared to how the person actually was). Try to tell the truth about who that person actually was and what they actually did and you find people prefer the legend to the truth. They will be downright nasty when the truth tarnishes the legend’s story.


Especially when you die before you have had a chance to write your own account of important events, you reincarnate to find what others have written about you is just plain untrue. Writers put words in your mouth that you never said. They attribute actions to you that you never did. Worse, they draw conclusions about you that are just downright stupid, unkind, and unfair. All you can do is just read it and comfort yourself with that fact that at least you know the truth.


If you “uncase” your past and proclaim that you are the reincarnation of a “famous” past life historical personality, others will instantly reject your claim. Interestingly enough, if you claim to be a nobody in past lives, others will not reject you, they will just think less of you. The truth is there is NO evidence of your past lives that others will find convincing. For example, in 1953, Harry Martindale saw a column of Roman soldiers marching through the basement of York Minister Cathedral. Since what Martindale saw about the soldier’s uniforms did not accord with the historical knowledge at the time, his account was dismissed. In the 1960s, excavations confirmed every last detail of Martindale’s vision… and still he was dismissed. If artifacts cannot convince others of the reality of past lives, you have NO chance.


For those who would be inclined to believe your claim about having had a famous past life, they would still be skeptical unless you looked, spoke, and acted as like that particular past life personality. They would expect you to exactly replicate your past life successes in the present… and, if you failed to do so, they would dismiss your claim. The problem is that a new life means new choices about body, mind, and emotions, about families and resources, and about life purpose and karmic goals. When the present life circumstances are NOT the same as past life ones, it is impossible to create the same results.


The hardest thing about having famous past lives is that it is like looking deeply into the mirror and seeing a mulitude of ugly faces there. When you read the long list of your character failings in several history books and you know them to be true, it is both a humbling and a humiliating experience. When you read about what you should have done in a certain situation and realize perhaps you could have done that, you feel deep remorse and regret. When you realize you did the best you could but were blocked from doing more for reasons lost to history, you feel bitter and disrespected. History is never accurate.


When you first discover that you had a famous past life, your initial reaction is bound to be denial. You think, “I am so ordinary, how could I have been/done that?”You resist the urge to research your past lives… yet you feel the inner pull to do so. You know that no one else will believe you… but that is nothing when you start out by not believing yourself. You doubt yourself. You try to forget but are forced to remember. No matter how much you deny, dismiss, or distance yourself from your famous past life… it is your constant companion until you choose to heal its issues haunting you today.


As hard as it is to own a famous past life, it is made more complicated by the fact that others also claim it as their own. The more famous your past life personality, the more people will claim it as their own. That should not concern you because, like it or not, you are still stuck with the past life karma from your famous person. Worse, the more your famous past life personality did that was karmically unloving, the harder you had to work in other lives and in this one to balance it.


The one thing that others cannot take from you is your knowledge and your experience. When you have done extraordinary things in the past, you retain the ability to do great things now. Whether or not you choose to draw on the gifts from the past, what you do now always is your choice. You can draw on all the books of past life wisdom inside you at any time. There is no rush or obligation: just be yourself now.


Admit to someone that you are the reincarnation of a famous person from the past and you WILL be abused. Some will say you are just trying to “show off” by claiming to have been someone “better” than you are now. Others will say you are crazy (because reincarnation is total garbage) or that you are a liar (because you are too ordinary now to have been extraordinary). A few (with no mental health qualifications) will diagnose you with all sorts of dire disorders for believing in the “whacky” proposition of reincarnation (while they believe in such things as virgin births and bread/fish from thin air). If others cannot accept you as you are, do not give them any attention.


In the end, you must make peace with all of your past life selves, especially with your famous, historical ones. After you have done your best to heal and balance the karma from all your past incarnations, you should learn from your failures and successes. Take the best from the past to make the present better. Forgive the worst from the past because there is no future in constantly beating yourself up about it. If all you learn from your famous past lives is to “go away and sin no more”, then you are bound only to create great karma going forward.

Source: healpastlives.com