Red Flags
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- DANGER The first sign of dissociation is when you start to wonder if it really happened at all. (To confirm your reality, find a witness, or write down what happened and date it)
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- If he insists that his plans are more important than yours, this spells DANGER
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- If he tries to go too fast, too soon, this spells DANGER
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- If he demands that you give up your dreams, this spells DANGER
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- If he mistreats pets this spells DANGER
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- If he acts like nothing has hap- pened after an abusive episode, this spells DANGER
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- If he shows intense, unwarranted jealousy, this spells DANGER
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- If he uses derogatory language towards your family & friends, this spells DANGER
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- If he checks up on your every move this spells DANGER
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- Your better question is, “What is he doing wrong?”
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- If he tries to isolate you from friends and family, this spells DANGER
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- If he is inconsiderate, disrespect- ful, or puts you down in public, this spells DANGER
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- If he blames you for what has happened and minimizes his abuse, this spells DANGER
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- If you experience illogical incidents of abuse in the middle of bliss, this spells DANGER
From the book, Dragonslippers. Copyright © 2005 by Rosalind B. Penfold.
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I have experienced almost all of that with my X husband, and oh by the way he still got custody of the children.
I’m feel for you, my ex. was the same. I managed to get away but I couldn’t get my children due to stress, health issues, parental alienation etc and some started behaving like him… First I was devastated then I started working on creating my own life, having peace for once, avoiding all abusers (even one of my children), looking after my health, my healing and my independence. I worked on building myself up -I’m not quite there yet – slow process :o) Take care
Well, I’m doing a lot better now than when I was married to my X. I remarried and found a wonderful guy who cares about me. I experienced great peace after that first divorce. I divorced again but not for the same reasons. I just don’t have peace about being married. I went and got my beauty license and started a craft business. I love having my own money!LOL So different than having to ask my X husbands for it. Yea, you take care too!